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33 3 Common AuDHD Concerns
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There are three interrelated concerns that I hear over and over from AuDHD folks:
- They don't see a clear pathway from what they love or are good at to making enough money.
- Strong ethics and values make it difficult to imagine a sustainable life, i.e. making enough money to let things be easier.
- Undervaluing the things that are easy for them (while feeling a lot of guilt or shame about struggling with the things that are hard for them: didn't talk about this half much)
They are not necessarily AuDHD-specific concerns, but we have some unique needs around resolving them.
This episode shares personal examples (including talking about my 2023 earnings) to build out a holistic picture of what it looks like to be in the process with all of these concerns.
Here are some conversation prompts if you want to talk to someone about #3:
- Let the person know that you're trying to sort out what skills and talents you have that you might be overlooking or undervaluing. I recommend both recording the conversation and asking the other person to take notes so you can get their perspective.
- Talk through (or write out if this is via email, though I recommend a live conversation if possible) your history with work and/or creative practice, and ways you've helped people. This can include free things such as volunteering. Make sure you also talk about what you've loved and what has felt easy and fun! Start turning this into a list of skills.
- Ask the other person for feedback on what stands out, and how they might describe or add to your list of skills. Have them ask you questions to draw out more information!
- Go back and forth adding to that list of skills, getting as specific as both of you can. Then get that person's opinion on what stands out as anything you might be undervaluing.
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book The Art of Impossible by Steven Kotler
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