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It’s Not Just a Bad Period”: The Truth About Endometriosis & Medical Gaslighting with Nicole Notar

Season 1, Ep. 51
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Have you ever been told your pain is “just part of being a woman”?

Do doctors brush off your symptoms, making you feel unheard—or even gaslit?

What if what you're experiencing is more than "just bad periods"?


In this episode of Ask the Patient Advocate Podcast, Dr. Elena Borrelli sits down with Nicole Notar, founder of Endo Excision For All, who shares her deeply personal—and all-too-familiar—journey with endometriosis.


From years of misdiagnosis and dismissal, to finally receiving life-changing excision surgery, Nicole turns her struggle into a mission to empower others. Together, we break down the medical gaslighting so many patients face, the critical difference between ablation and excision surgery, why insurance barriers are leaving patients behind, and how you can advocate for the care you deserve.


Whether you're wondering if you might have endometriosis, struggling to get a diagnosis, or looking for the right care path—this episode is your roadmap, your validation, and your voice.


🎙️ Inside this episode:

  • The shocking truth about how long it takes to get diagnosed with Endo
  • Why so many providers still misunderstand the disease
  • The financial and systemic barriers to excision surgery
  • Red flags to watch for when choosing a provider
  • How to get support through advocacy, mentorship, and private patient advocates


🎧 Tune in now to learn how to take control of your recovery, feel heard, and move forward — one step at a time.


Listen to the next episode of "Ask the Patient Advocate" as we continue to empower you with insights and strategies for navigating your healthcare journey with confidence.


If you have questions or topics you'd like us to explore, don't hesitate to reach out to us at advocate@pathwaypa.com. Remember, with the right advocate by your side, managing your health becomes a journey of empowerment and clarity.


For personalized assistance and support, reach out to us and discover how we can help you navigate your path to better health. Call us at (947) 517-8395


Connect with Nicole:

nicole@endoexcisionforall.org

https://endoexcisionforall.org/

https://www.instagram.com/endoexcisionforall/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicolenotar/


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