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Are We There Yet ? with Kathryn Thomas

Dearbhla Mescal "Nobody's gonna make you happy."

Season 2, Ep. 3

Welcome back to a new season of ‘Are We There Yet?’ with Kathryn Thomas, presented in association with Mater Private Network.


What happens when your children become some of the most talked-about faces in the world, just as your own life is turned upside down by a sudden diagnosis?

In this heartfelt conversation, bestselling-author Dearbhla Mescal joins Kathryn Thomas to pull back the curtain on a life lived between the ordinary and the extraordinary. 


From raising a family in the "creative chaos" of Maynooth to navigating the global spotlight at both Wimbledon and the Oscars, Dearbhla shares how she learned to find beauty in the small things—long before she had to fight just for simple everyday pleasure.


Together, Kathryn and Dearbhla get honest about career guilt, the pressure to be a "perfect" parent and why we need to stop judging our difficult choices.


Dearbhla’s acclaimed book of poetry “Finding Joy: Words to Capture the Beauty of Ordinary Life” is out now on all bookshops.

'Are We There Yet? with Kathryn Thomas' is an Onic Original podcast.

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