Are you and your partner feeling less like lovers and more like logistics managers for a tiny, demanding boss? Welcome to Roommate Syndrome – the ultimate parenting rite of passage.
This week on Baby on the Brain, hosts Fliss and Miranda sit down with relationship and sex therapist Georgina Vass (15+ years experience) to break down what actually happens to our romantic dynamics after having children—and, most importantly, how to get the spark back.
Together, they dive deep into:
What "Roommate Syndrome" really is: Why it’s not a clinical diagnosis or a sign of falling out of love, but a natural (and temporary!) chapter.
Red flags vs. temporary slumps: How to tell if your relationship is going through a developmental "leap" or if you're sliding into deeper trouble.
The truth about scheduled sex: Why taking performance pressure off the table can actually save your sex life.
Why absence makes the heart grow fonder: The surprising downside of shared calendars, location tracking, and 24/7 texting.
Small wins & simple shifts: One immediate action you can take tonight to reconnect with your partner without taking a hot-air balloon to Paris!
Whether you’re stuck in the middle of bed-sharing logistics, drowning in task management, or just missing your partner's eye contact, this warm, honest, and funny episode is the realistic reality-check every parent needs.
Show notes and timestamps:
00:55 — What is Roommate Syndrome?
03:33 — Warning signs vs. temporary parenting chapters
06:36 — Tackling cognitive load imbalances and desire gaps
08:52 — Is scheduled sex actually effective?
11:17 — Competing with screens and household admin
17:55 — Why closeness can kill desire (and why you need "separateness")
23:30 — The single easiest thing you can do tonight to shift the dynamic
24:35 — This or That: Shared calendars vs. separate responsibilities
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