{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/98ddd5a0-c00b-4f80-9a5b-d4584d0040ac/69e7a6855e98f8f4dbaf194f?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"\"Why does criticism hurt so much?\" Dr Julie on triggers and behaviour patterns","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/62260956118c54704394e034/1779364032466-5a77993d-a69f-43d4-ae45-00f6d32b10dc.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p>Ever looked in the mirror and told yourself “I am enough” ...and not believed a word of it? Psychologist Dr Julie Smith reckons affirmations only work to boost confidence if – deep down – you already believe them.</p><p><br></p><p>In this chat with Fearne, Julie explains why your brain needs evidence, not mantras, to change your critical inner voice and build self-worth. She also talks through why criticism from others can hit so hard, and why the discomfort felt is often an echo of a much older wound. Julie breaks down how the patterns we developed in childhood keep replaying in adulthood.</p><p><br></p><p>Julie also talks about her breast cancer diagnosis, and how it tested everything she’d been teaching everyone else about fear, agency, and mental health.</p><p><br></p><p>Plus, what’s the simple therapy exercise that could change how you carry pain?</p><p><br></p><p>Dr Julie’s best-selling book, Open When, is available now in paperback.</p><p><br></p><p>If you liked this episode of Happy Place, you might also like:</p><p><br></p><p><a href=\"https://pod.fo/e/15d94a\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Dr Julie’s first Happy Place episode</a></p><p><br></p><p><a href=\"https://pod.fo/e/2c3bf2\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Estelle Bingham</a></p><p><br></p><p><a href=\"https://pod.fo/e/22e78e\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Adele Roberts</a></p>","author_name":"Fearne Cotton"}