{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/7b4acef7-3bd0-4e25-ab0a-76963f47bb11/6a4e204c0be8a677179173e7?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"Anna Mathur: Why you keep snapping, the shame spiral that makes it worse, and how to actually repair","description":"<p>I'm joined on this episode - for the fourth time - by awesome psychotherapist and bestselling author Anna Mathur. Her new book How to Stop Snapping at the People You Love (as Well as the Ones You Don't) is a brilliant exploration of why we snap and how to respond when it happens.</p><p><br></p><p>We kick of by chatting about what it's like to be the expert on rage when you're also the person in the car park crying over a WhatsApp group message asking for a fiver.</p><p><br></p><p>We also cover:</p><p><br></p><ul><li>Why snapping is rarely about the thing that triggered it - and what the carrier bag metaphor tells us about how we actually reach our limit</li><li>The difference between anger and rage, and why anger is more useful than we think</li><li>Why the shame spiral after a snap keeps your body in the same stressed state, making another one more likely, not less</li><li>How being a \"good girl\" becomes a survival strategy, and why it turns into resentment</li><li>What Anna's ADHD diagnosis taught her about her own nervous system - and how she parents a child with big feelings when she has them too</li><li>The perimenopause connection: what's actually happening hormonally, and why Anna started HRT</li><li>What a real apology looks like (and the version that actually makes things worse)</li><li>Anna's own burnout - what it felt like, and how it changed the way she lives now</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Follow Anna Mathur on Instagram at @annamathur and check out her new book here: https://amzn.to/4btSdF6</p><p><br></p><p>If you enjoyed this episode then please leave a rating or review - and you can follow the podcast to ensure you don’t miss future episodes. Thank you!</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Not Another Mummy Podcast is brought to you by me, journalist and author Alison Perry. I'm a mum of three and I love interviewing people about parenthood and confidence on the podcast. You can check out my other episodes and you can come chat to me on Instagram: <a href=\"http://www.instagram.com/iamalisonperry\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">@iamalisonperry</a> or on Threads: <a href=\"https://www.threads.com/@iamalisonperry\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">@iamalisonperry. </a>You can buy my book <a href=\"https://www.amazon.co.uk/OMG-Its-Twins-Birthday-Without/dp/1785043137\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">OMG It's Twins</a> now.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Music: Epidemic Sound</p><p>Artwork: Eleanor Bowmer</p>","author_name":"Alison Perry"}