Teenage single mum. Phone sex operator. Professionally trained dominatrix. Award-winning coach. Grandma of four. Lady Velvet, the Mistress of Choice, has lived many lives, and she’s done hiding any of them.
She tells us how a conversation on a bench by Tower Bridge led to seven years of phone sex work to feed her boys, what thousands of calls taught her about what men really want, and the moment she finally owned her story in front of 200 women. Then she leads us through the Velvet Command (try it at home), a releasing ritual, and a conversation about shame, pleasure, people-pleasing and who we are underneath all the labels.
Explicit, honest and surprisingly emotional. You’ll walk away with your shoulders back.
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00:00 Cold open: "What's your book about?"
01:05 Meet Lady Velvet, the Mistress of Choice
01:50 Teenage single mum, boarding school in Jamaica
06:45 Gut and Glory (partner)
08:35 "Why don't we do phone sex?"
16:02 How Lady Velvet was born
18:08 What men really want in bed
20:19 From dominatrix to owning the label "sex worker"
23:38 "I don't want to be a lady, Grandma"
28:32 The Velvet Temple
37:00 Telling 200 women the truth
41:17 The Velvet Command (say it with us)
47:36 Swallowing your no
54:53 "Who are you?"
1:01:32 "My children saved my life"
1:06:34 Gifts and goodbyes
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