{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/6a95760c0305125c63414e16/6ac4d6ac9610f265be5bc357?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"Emotional Labor: What Composure Actually Costs You","description":"<p>This episode is about emotional labor and the gap between what you feel and what you actually show when a job requires composure. Kristen looks at why staying steady for others has a cost, even when you look calm on the outside. She separates the research on display rules, surface acting and expressive suppression from her own clinical view, then asks a simple question: did you calm down, or did you just look calm?</p><p><br></p><p>Some takeaways:</p><ul><li>What display rules are and how they shape which emotions feel acceptable to show at work</li><li>The difference between surface acting and deep acting, and why surface acting is more consistently linked to exhaustion</li><li>Why hiding your feelings can increase physiological strain even when you appear calm</li><li>Why generic advice to just feel your feelings misses what composure actually costs</li><li>How gendered expectations add pressure, including research on how women&#39;s anger gets judged differently depending on whether a reason is given</li><li>A reflection practice to try this week: pick one moment you had to pull yourself together, then ask what you actually felt versus what you showed, and whether you calmed down or just looked calm</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Connect with Kristen:</p><p>🌐 <a href=\"https://www.frontlinewellnessgroup.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Frontline Wellness Group</a></p><p>📋 <a href=\"https://www.frontlinewellnessgroup.com/freeassessment?utm_source=podcast\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Free High Pressure Leadership Assessment</a></p><p>🎙️ <a href=\"https://www.frontlinewellnessgroup.com/pages/book-a-consultation?utm_source=ig&amp;utm_medium=social&amp;utm_content=link_in_bio&amp;fbclid=PAcGRvZgJleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZA85MzY2MTk3NDMzOTI0NTkAAafNT5l-wqUXNKiN-73UOnSeCZzZtAu6DdEOeKivI3pgEXbToVdKdp61uXlk0w_aem_0is4HDb58jSmoXwYWIV1NA\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Work with Kristen</a></p><p>📱 <a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/frontlinewellnessgroup/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Instagram</a></p><p><br></p><p>Chapters:</p><p>00:00 Introduction</p><p>00:38 The Quiet Pressure</p><p>01:18 The Switch You Make</p><p>04:21 The Unspoken Rules at Work</p><p>04:58 Surface Acting vs. Deep Acting</p><p>07:26 Suppression and the Body’s Stress Response</p><p>09:36 Gendered Expectations at Work</p><p>12:55 A Weekly Reflection Practice</p><p>13:51 A Clinical Note and Next Steps</p><p>15:06 Outro and Free Leadership Assessment</p>","author_name":"Kristen Plake"}