Watch the TEDx Here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IikhH_btza4
My TEDx talk ended with a simple invitation: look again.
But what happens when we actually put that idea to the test?
Surely we do know the people closest to us? What if someone has repeatedly shown us exactly who they are? Does leaving room for people to change mean ignoring patterns? And what happens when we look again and realise we don't actually like the person someone has become?
In this episode of Seen. Not Defined., I take on some of questions I've received since giving my TEDx talk.
We explore the point where knowing becomes certainty, the difference between accountability and identity, why “you've changed” doesn't have to be an accusation, and whether even positive labels like “strong”, “clever” and “independent” can quietly become cages.
Because knowing someone isn't the problem.
The problem is deciding there's nothing left to know.
Perhaps the person you've become most certain about isn't somebody else.
Perhaps it's you.
A question to take away:
What's changed about you that I might not have noticed?
Because maybe being seen isn't about somebody understanding everything about us.
Maybe it's knowing they haven't finished understanding us yet.
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