{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/6a67e8b0a02cbcf2a1cfe5f9/6aaf685246fd9745ea4ce307?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"9. Why a meltdown is healthy and how to handle them - Loving Limits","description":"<p>What do you do when your child is completely losing it? You can feel yourself getting frustrated and every instinct is telling you to either give in or put your foot down…</p><p><br></p><p>There’s another option: holding a firm boundary while still giving your child space to feel everything they’re feeling.</p><p><br></p><p>This is a process called Loving Limits and for this episode we are joined by Jason Seeman to help guide us on the process.</p><p><br></p><p>Jason is a father of two, fatherhood guide, educator and founder of Raising Fathers. Raising Fathers supports new fathers through parenting education courses, as well as running rites of passage experiences, 1:1 mentoring, and community events for Dads. Loving Limits has fundamentally changed the way Jason parents his own kids, offering a practical way to stay connected through the messy moments, without giving in to every demand.</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, Jason shares:</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><ul><li>What to actually say and do when your child is melting down, dysregulated or refusing to cooperate.</li><li>Why being emotionally attuned doesn’t mean becoming permissive or giving up boundaries.</li><li>How Loving Limits creates a firm “no” to challenging behaviour while saying “yes” to the feelings underneath.</li><li>Why crying, raging and other big emotions don’t necessarily need to be stopped or fixed.</li><li>How to recognise when our own fight-or-flight response is kicking in and then regulate ourselves before reacting.</li><li>Why trying to reason with a child in the middle of big emotions usually doesn’t work.</li><li>How to set limits when you genuinely don’t have time to sit with your child’s feelings.</li><li>What Loving Limits can look like in public, when other people may be watching or judging.</li><li>How to validate anger while still physically preventing a child from hurting someone.</li><li>What can happen when kids grow up seeing emotional attunement modelled at home.</li></ul><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>KEY QUOTES</p><p><br></p><p>“Kids need to feel felt. It doesn’t matter what the gender is. They need to feel felt and held by both parents.”</p><p><br></p><p>“The places where they push your buttons the most are the things that you still haven’t fully sat with and made peace with in yourself.”</p><p><br></p><p>“How you parent your kids is how you parent yourself.”</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>MORE ABOUT JASON</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><ul><li>Find out more via Jason’s <a href=\"https://www.raising-fathers.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">website.</a></li><li>Or follow him on <a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/raising_fathers\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Instagram</a></li><li>New Dads check out his <a href=\"https://www.raising-fathers.com/truenorth\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Expecting Dads Course</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>LOVING LIMITS RESOURCES</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><ul><li>Download the free <a href=\"https://mailchi.mp/965d342688f3/loving-limits\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Loving Limits Guide</a></li><li>Learn more about Aware Parenting from <a href=\"https://www.awareparenting.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Aletha Solter PhD</a> and <a href=\"https://www.marionrose.net/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Marion Rose PhD</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>GET INVOLVED WITH THE PODCAST ONLINE</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><ul><li>Join our community of Dads on <a href=\"https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dadtoolbox/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Facebook</a></li><li>Follow on <a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/dad_toolbox/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Instagram</a>: @dad_toolbox</li><li>Follow on <a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/@DadToolbox\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Youtube</a></li><li><a href=\"https://www.dadtoolbox.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Sign up</a> for weekly Dad tools, advice and support</li><li>Find out more at <a href=\"https://linktr.ee/dadtoolbox\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://linktr.ee/dadtoolbox</a>&nbsp;</li></ul><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>SUPPORTING RESEARCH</p><p><br></p><p><a href=\"https://docs.google.com/document/d/1ncu5CB0J5qmUIdSmJVR7Ao5mS0R4r-JgassWZKuF-qw/edit?usp=sharing\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Download a compilation</a> of the papers and books used to research this topic.</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Podcast produced by <a href=\"https://thepodcastbutler.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">The Podcast Butler</a></p>","author_name":"Sean Croon"}