Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not intended as legal advice. Please seek independent legal advice for your individual circumstances.
Separation and divorce are topics most of us only talk about in hushed tones, or not at all. But what if the conversation could actually help? Whether you're happily married, quietly struggling, or somewhere in the middle of the hardest decision of your life, this episode is for you.
Jules sits down with Gabriella Pomare, a Sydney-based family lawyer, author, and founder of The Collaborative Co-Parent, a platform dedicated to helping separated families move through co-parenting with more compassion, clarity and grace. What makes Gabriella different from most lawyers? She's been through it herself. With a one-year-old at home and a career built on guiding others through divorce, she navigated her own separation and came out the other side with a perspective that is equal parts honest, practical and deeply human.
In this conversation, Jules and Gabriella talk about why marriages quietly unravel long before anyone says a word, the dangerous idea of staying for the kids, how to protect your children through the hardest kind of change, what to do when your ex simply won't cooperate, and why in Gabriella's words, it's not a broken family.
This is not a conversation about failure. It's a conversation about rebuilding.
Connect with Gabriella:
🌐 Website: https://gabriellapomare.com
🎙 Podcast \"Before It Break with Gabriella Pomare\" https://gabriellapomare.com/podcast
📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegabriellapomare/
CHAPTERS
00:00 — Introduction & Disclaimer
01:00 — Welcome: What Gabriella Wants You to Take From Today
02:50 — Why She Chose Family Law - and What Changed When It Got Personal
06:10 — Why Every Marriage and Divorce is Different: No Cookie-Cutter Answers
07:00 — The Silent Divorce: When Couples Stop Fighting and What That Really Means
08:30 — Communication is Everything - How to Have the Conversations You're Avoiding
14:00 — Is Divorce Failure? Reframing the Stigma
16:00 — \"It's Not a Broken Family\" - How You Do the Divorce Changes Everything
18:20 — Do You Need a Lawyer? The Practical First Steps After the Decision is Made
20:10 — The Danger of Suffering in Silence - and What Good Friends Can Do
25:00 — Putting Your Kids First: What That Actually Means in Practice
27:30 — Children Didn't Choose This: How to Help Them Feel Safe and Loved
29:00 — One Thing You Can Do This Week for Your Kids
31:30 — Staying for the Kids: When It Helps and When It Harms
32:50 — When Your Ex Won't Play Nice: Setting Limits with a High-Conflict Co-Parent
36:00 — The Path Through the Mud: Healing, Grief and Getting Unstuck
37:00 — Silver Linings: The Unexpected Positives for Kids and Parents After Separation
40:00 — What to Do If You're Feeling Lost Right Now
42:30 — Final Words: You Are Not a Failure. You Get a Do-Over.
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