In this episode, I talk about the bodies we build and the validation we chase, and why getting the thing you always wanted so often leaves you feeling like a stranger to yourself.
We've all got a thing. The abs, the jawline, the perfect picture, the number of likes. We call it a glow-up, taking care of ourselves, finally getting it together. But what happens when you get there, when the compliments roll in and the attention lands, and nothing inside you actually shifts?
In this one I dig into why so many of us chase the \"ideal\" body, and why it's almost never really about the body at all. I talk about the validation loop, the Grindr notifications, the thirst traps, the endless refreshing, and what's really sitting underneath it.
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