In this episode, I talk about one of the most useful things I've ever learned in therapy — and why I think it changes everything once you see it.
Most of us have been in conflict that just doesn't make sense. The friendship that keeps blowing up. The relationship that runs in circles. The moment you realise you've spent years trying to fix everyone else's problems and somehow ended up feeling like the villain anyway.
I walk through a psychological framework called the Drama Triangle - what it is, the three roles we unconsciously slip into, and why it hits differently when you've grown up gay. Because when shame, people-pleasing, and the need to be liked have been baked into you since childhood, these patterns run deep.
This one is about understanding the scripts we didn't know we were following - and what it looks like to finally start rewriting them.
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