{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/6abae084583d5d66f7211819?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"How To Stop Resentment From Killing Your Sex Life","description":"<p>Not in the mood? It might not be your libido. You might just be really, <em>really</em> annoyed.</p><p><br></p><p>Jay-Jay Feeney and sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes get into the sneaky way resentment shuts down desire. It&#39;s not always the big stuff. It&#39;s the bins, the groceries, the school notices, and always being the one who &quot;just does it&quot;. All those little crumbs get swept under the rug until you&#39;re tripping over it, and your body goes <em>absolutely not</em> the second your partner reaches for you.</p><p><br></p><p>We chat about:</p><ul><li>Why so many of us mistake resentment for a low sex drive</li><li>How love languages can make or break intimacy (plus Jay-Jay&#39;s hand-kissing drama)</li><li>The mental load, sharing chores, and why nobody wants to mother their lover</li><li>In-laws, infidelity, and holding onto hurt for years</li><li>The slightly confronting question Mel gets her clients to ask: &quot;How have I enabled this?&quot;</li><li>What to actually say when you&#39;re ready to talk about it</li><li>Angry sex, duty sex (we don&#39;t do duty sex on this podcast... mostly), and why sex can&#39;t fix the problem on its own</li><li>Rebuilding non-sexual touch, finding yourself again, and bringing the fun back</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Spoiler: it&#39;s repair before seduction. Every time.</p><p><br></p><p>This episode is brought to you by Datebox: fun, playful date nights delivered to your door, no babysitter or planning needed. Use code HTHS at <a href=\"www.datebox.nz\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">datebox.nz</a> for 10% off (it stacks with their other offers too).</p><p><br></p><p> How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes; one nosy, curious host and one expert who actually knows what she&#39;s talking about. Every episode tackles the stuff most of us were never taught, minus the awkward classroom diagrams.</p><p><br></p><p> <strong>JOIN OUR COMMUNITY!</strong> </p><p> Subscribe to our <strong>Substack:</strong> <a href=\"https://hthspodcast.substack.com\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://hthspodcast.substack.com</a> </p><p> <strong>Instagram</strong>: <a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast \" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast </a></p><p> <strong>TikTok</strong>: <a href=\"https://www.tiktok.com/@howtohaves.pod \" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.tiktok.com/@howtohaves.pod </a></p><p> <strong>Facebook</strong>: <a href=\"https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast \" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast </a></p><p> <strong>YouTube</strong>: <a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast \" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast </a></p><p> <strong>Email</strong>: <a href=\"howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com \" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com </a></p><p> <strong>Support the podcast</strong>: <a href=\"https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex \" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex </a></p><p><br></p><p> How to Have Sex is produced by PodLab, Auckland - https://www.podlab.co.nz </p><p><br></p><p> HOSTS: Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney </p><p><br></p><p> Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex &amp; Relationship Coach www.melissavranjes.com Instagram: @melissavranjes </p><p><br></p><p> Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School: <a href=\"https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school</a></p>","author_name":"Jay-Jay Feeney & Melissa Vranjes"}