{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/6a9510691d52ae16baa469ae?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"How To Have A Great Sex Life As Parents","description":"<p>Congratulations, you got the kids to sleep! Now lock the door.... this episode is just getting started.</p><p>Jay-Jay Feeney and certified somatic sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes sit down for one of the most requested topics yet: how to actually have a sex life once you've got kids. Melissa is three months postpartum with her second baby and deep in the newborn trenches, so this one's personal, honest, and refreshingly unfiltered.</p><p>Together they unpack why parenthood doesn't kill your libido so much as it completely rewires it. From spontaneous desire to something Melissa calls \"responsive desire,\" and from candlelit dates to a stolen 90 seconds between nappy changes.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>In this episode:</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li>Why \"need-driven touch\" (hello, breastfeeding) can leave you touched out and not exactly craving more contact from your partner</li><li>Spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and why waiting to \"feel horny\" first might be the whole problem</li><li>\"Chore Play\": how unloading the dishwasher can genuinely be foreplay</li><li>Melissa's raw, three-months-postpartum update on her own body, libido, and relationship</li><li>Why exhaustion, not lack of attraction, is public enemy number one for parents' sex lives</li><li>The gentle way she and her husband reconnected physically after birth, with zero pressure</li><li>The \"sex menu\": a 5-minute, 10-minute and 30-minute system for intimacy on the busiest nights</li><li>Getting your privacy back (a lock on the door is doing more heavy lifting than you'd think)</li><li>\"Sexual currency\" - the small everyday moments that quietly build (or kill) desire</li><li>Why obligatory sex causes more long-term damage than just... not having sex</li><li>The weekly relationship check-in that keeps resentment from creeping in</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Whether you're in the newborn haze, wrangling a toddler, or years into parenting and just want your spark back, consider this your permission slip to stop chasing your old sex life and start building a new one that actually fits this season.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Next week:</strong> How to Have Mind-Blowing Group Sex 👀</p><p><br></p><p>How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes; one nosy, curious host and one expert who actually knows what she's talking about. Every episode tackles the stuff most of us were never taught, minus the awkward classroom diagrams.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p> <strong>JOIN OUR COMMUNITY!</strong></p><p><strong> SUBSCRIBE TO OUR SUBSTACK </strong><a href=\"https://hthspodcast.substack.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://hthspodcast.substack.com</a></p><p><strong> INSTAGRAM </strong><a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast</a></p><p> <strong>TIKTOK</strong> <a href=\"https://www.tiktok.com/@howtohaves.pod\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.tiktok.com/@howtohaves.pod</a></p><p> <strong>FACEBOOK </strong><a href=\"https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast</a></p><p> <strong>YOUTUBE</strong> <a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast</a></p><p> <strong>EMAIL</strong> <a href=\"mailto:howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com</a></p><p> <strong>Support the podcast! </strong><a href=\"https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex</a></p><p> </p><p> How To Have Sex is produced by <strong>PodLab</strong>, Auckland. <a href=\"https://www.podlab.co.nz/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.podlab.co.nz</a></p><p><br></p><p> <strong>HOSTS:</strong></p><p><strong> Jay-Jay Feeney</strong> – Media Personality</p><p> Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ</p><p> Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney</p><p> </p><p> <strong>Melissa Vranjes – </strong>Certified Somatic Sex &amp; Relationship Coach</p><p> www.melissavranjes.com</p><p> Instagram: @melissavranjes</p><p> </p><p> Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body?<strong> Join Sex School here: </strong>https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school</p><p><strong> </strong></p><p> </p><p><strong> </strong></p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p>","author_name":"Jay-Jay Feeney & Melissa Vranjes"}