{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/6a5dcdc9461a6a41900465e7?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"How To Stop Faking It and Start Being Honest In Bed","description":"<p>Confession time: we've both faked it. 🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️</p><p>This week Jay-Jay and Mel get real about faking it, and we're not just talking about orgasms. We're talking about every quiet way we abandon ourselves in bed: nodding along, holding our breath, pretending we're way more flexible than we actually are.</p><p>Mel breaks down why faking it is actually a smart nervous-system survival strategy, not a character flaw, and how it quietly builds resentment and chore sex over time if left unchecked. We get into the four stress responses: fight, flight, freeze, and the one nobody talks about, fawn, plus real phrases to use instead of faking it, and how to take feedback from a partner without spiralling.</p><p>We also talk a little too much about swallowing. </p><p>By the end, you'll have real language to use tonight, a pleasure practice to try this week, and hopefully a little less pressure to perform and a little more permission to just be honest.</p><p>💌 Subscribe to our Substack for early episodes, our weekly pleasure practice and behind-the-scenes extras. 🎓</p><p> </p><p> </p><p>How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes; one nosy, curious host and one expert who actually knows what she's talking about. Every episode tackles the stuff most of us were never taught, minus the awkward classroom diagrams.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p> This podcast is proudly sponsored by <strong>Wild Secrets</strong>.</p><p> Shop online at <a href=\"http://www.wildsecrets.co.nz\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">www.wildsecrets.co.nz</a> &amp; use the code <strong>HTHS</strong> for 20% off sitewide…</p><p> Pleasure Delivered.</p><p><br></p><p> <strong>JOIN OUR COMMUNITY!</strong></p><p><strong> SUBSCRIBE TO OUR SUBSTACK </strong><a href=\"https://hthspodcast.substack.com\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://hthspodcast.substack.com</a></p><p><strong> INSTAGRAM </strong><a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast</a></p><p> <strong>TIKTOK</strong> <a href=\"https://www.tiktok.com/@howtohaves.pod\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.tiktok.com/@howtohaves.pod</a></p><p> <strong>FACEBOOK </strong><a href=\"https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast</a></p><p> <strong>YOUTUBE</strong> <a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast</a></p><p> <strong>EMAIL</strong> <a href=\"mailto:howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com</a></p><p> <strong>Support the podcast! </strong><a href=\"https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex</a></p><p> </p><p> How To Have Sex is produced by <strong>PodLab</strong>, Auckland. <a href=\"https://www.podlab.co.nz\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.podlab.co.nz</a></p><p><br></p><p> <strong>HOSTS:</strong></p><p><strong> Jay-Jay Feeney</strong> – Media Personality</p><p> Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ</p><p> Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney</p><p> </p><p> <strong>Melissa Vranjes – </strong>Certified Somatic Sex &amp; Relationship Coach</p><p> www.melissavranjes.com</p><p> Instagram: @melissavranjes</p><p> </p><p> Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body?<strong> Join Sex School here: </strong>https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school</p><p><strong> </strong></p><p> </p><p><strong> </strong></p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p>&nbsp;</p>","author_name":"Jay-Jay Feeney & Melissa Vranjes"}