{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/6a1d02e3ad1ed3d7b549c58a?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"How to Explore Beginner-Friendly BDSM","description":"<p><br></p><p>BDSM. Two seconds after hearing that word, most people picture whips, chains, leather, and some kind of expensive basement situation. (Just me? Okay, just me.)</p><p><br></p><p>This week, certified somatic sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes breaks down what BDSM actually is — and spoiler: it's a much wider, far less terrifying spectrum than you think.</p><p><br></p><p>We cover:</p><ul><li>What BDSM really means (and what it definitely doesn't have to mean)</li><li>Why so many people are secretly curious about power play, restraint, and dominance, and feel weirdly ashamed about it</li><li>The psychology behind dominant people wanting to submit, and vice versa</li><li>How to go from \"we've vaguely thought about this\" to actually trying it, without a cringe disaster</li><li>The beginner's menu: easy, low-stakes things to explore first</li><li>Consent conversations that don't feel like a workplace health and safety briefing</li><li>Safewords, aftercare, and the mistakes people make, copying what they've seen online</li><li>And this week's Pleasure Practice to try at home</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Whether you're deeply curious, mildly intrigued, or just here to find out what all the fuss is about, this one's for you.</p><p><br></p><p><em>Don't start with a whip and a prayer. Start here. </em></p><p><br></p><p>How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes. Every episode is designed to educate, inform, and start the conversations that most of us were never taught to have.</p><p><br></p><p>This podcast is proudly sponsored by <strong>Wild Secrets</strong>.</p><p>Shop online at <a href=\"http://www.wildsecrets.co.nz/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">www.wildsecrets.co.nz</a> &amp; use the code <strong>HAVESEX</strong> for 20% off sitewide…</p><p>Pleasure Delivered.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>SUBSCRIBE TO OUR SUBSTACK </strong><a href=\"https://hthspodcast.substack.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://hthspodcast.substack.com</a></p><p><strong> INSTAGRAM </strong><a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast</a></p><p><strong>FACEBOOK </strong><a href=\"https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast</a></p><p><strong>YOUTUBE</strong> <a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast</a></p><p><strong>EMAIL</strong> <a href=\"mailto:howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com</a></p><p><strong>Support the podcast! </strong><a href=\"https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex</a></p><p><br></p><p>How To Have Sex is produced by <strong>PodLab</strong>, Auckland. <a href=\"https://www.podlab.co.nz/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.podlab.co.nz</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>HOSTS:</strong></p><p><strong> Jay-Jay Feeney</strong> – Media Personality</p><p>Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ</p><p>Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Melissa Vranjes – </strong>Certified Somatic Sex &amp; Relationship Coach</p><p>www.melissavranjes.com</p><p>Instagram: @melissavranjes</p><p><br></p><p>Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body?<strong> Join Sex School here: </strong>https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school</p><p><strong> </strong></p><p><br></p><p><strong> </strong></p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><br></p>","author_name":"Jay-Jay Feeney & Melissa Vranjes"}