{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/6a1116e742bb55037b739aec?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"How To Keep Porn From Replacing Intimacy ","description":"<p>Porn. We're going there. Whether you watch it, your partner watches it, or you've never really thought about it, this episode is the honest, shame-free conversation you didn't know you needed.</p><p><br></p><p>Jay-Jay and Mel explore why porn is so wildly popular, what your search history might (and might not) say about you, and the real question nobody asks: is your porn use helping, or quietly replacing intimacy in your relationship?</p><p><br></p><p>This is sex education, not judgment. We cover:</p><ul><li>Why men and women consume porn so differently, and what women are actually looking for</li><li>The psychology of eroticism and why taboo fantasies make sense</li><li>Porn and relationships: when it's fine, when it's not, and what to do when you've just caught your partner watching it (Mel shares her story, and it's a good one)</li><li>The top-searched categories in 2025 and what that tells us about desire</li><li>How porn can actually rewire your body's arousal response, and make it harder to orgasm with a partner</li><li>Ethical porn: what it means, and where to find it (Erika Lust gets a mention)</li><li>Audio erotica, smut, and other ways to explore desire beyond visual porn</li><li><br></li></ul><p>Mentioned in this episode: <a href=\"https://erikalust.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://erikalust.com/</a> for ethical porn, and if you want to listen to the best audio erotica, try <a href=\"https://www.tryquinn.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.tryquinn.com/</a> or https://www.dipseastories.com/</p><p> </p><p>Next week: BDSM.</p><p>Subscribe so you don't miss a thing. </p><p>And if this episode resonated, leave us a review. It genuinely helps.</p><p> </p><p>How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes. Every episode is designed to educate, inform, and start the conversations that most of us were never taught to have.</p><p><br></p><p> This podcast is proudly sponsored by <strong>Wild Secrets</strong>.</p><p> Shop online at <a href=\"http://www.wildsecrets.co.nz\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">www.wildsecrets.co.nz</a> &amp; use the code <strong>HAVESEX</strong> for 20% off sitewide…</p><p> Pleasure Delivered.</p><p><br></p><p> <strong>SUBSCRIBE TO OUR SUBSTACK </strong><a href=\"https://hthspodcast.substack.com\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://hthspodcast.substack.com</a></p><p><strong> INSTAGRAM </strong><a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast</a></p><p> <strong>FACEBOOK </strong><a href=\"https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast</a></p><p> <strong>YOUTUBE</strong> <a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast</a></p><p> <strong>EMAIL</strong> <a href=\"mailto:howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com</a></p><p> <strong>Support the podcast! </strong><a href=\"https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex</a></p><p> </p><p> How To Have Sex is produced at <strong>PodLab</strong>, Auckland. <a href=\"https://www.podlab.co.nz\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.podlab.co.nz</a></p><p><br></p><p> <strong>HOSTS:</strong></p><p><strong> Jay-Jay Feeney</strong> – Media Personality</p><p> Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ</p><p> Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney</p><p> </p><p> <strong>Melissa Vranjes – </strong>Certified Somatic Sex &amp; Relationship Coach</p><p> www.melissavranjes.com</p><p> Instagram: @melissavranjes</p><p> </p><p> Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body?<strong> Join Sex School here: </strong>https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school</p><p><strong> </strong></p><p> </p><p><strong> </strong></p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p><br></p><p><br></p>","author_name":"Jay-Jay Feeney & Melissa Vranjes"}