Talking about oral sex makes Jay-Jay wildly uncomfortable… which is exactly why this episode had to happen.
In this lesson of How To Have Sex, Jay-Jay Feeney and sex & relationship coach Melissa Vranjes get very practical about what makes oral sex actually feel good for everyone. This is not about porn moves, performance, or trying to “get it right.” It’s about confidence, communication, anatomy, connection, and learning how to give pleasure in a way that feels good for you too.
Melissa breaks down what “world-class head” really means, why so many people feel pressure around oral sex, and the biggest lies porn has taught us about blowjobs and going down on women. The episode covers hand techniques, oral techniques, sore jaw and lockjaw hacks, how to ask for what you want without dying inside, and why slowing down is often the fastest path to better sex.
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And of course, Melissa gives Jay-Jay, and you, a new Pleasure Practice for the week: how to give head in a way that feels good for you as well.
Next episode: How to Dirty Talk (Without Dying of Embarrassment).
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HOSTS:
Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality
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Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach
www.melissavranjes.com
Instagram: @melissavranjes
Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school
Want more from Mel? She writes a weekly sex column for Woman's Day magazine.
Pick up the latest issue to read it.
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