This is Part 2 of The Next Chapter series on pornography and purity. If you haven't listened to Part 1 — Why Willpower Won't Free You — start there first.
Part 1 laid out the theology: why willpower never works, what you're actually hungry for, and what the spiritual disciplines do to fan your affection for Christ. This episode is the testimony.
Justin is a brother Seun does life with. For ten to twelve years, he was in what he describes as a steady relationship with pornography addiction. College. Moving back into his parents' house. His own apartment. Marriage. The struggle followed him everywhere. He tried everything — put the phone in another room, told himself no, counted the days. None of it lasted longer than a week.
Then his wife had a miscarriage at five months. That loss brought him low — and brought him back to the God he'd acknowledged publicly but never really pursued. He started reading the Bible chronologically for the first time in his life. And when he got to Abraham's willingness to sacrifice his son, something broke open. He saw the gospel. And the appetite for pornography — a ten-year appetite — just left.
This conversation covers:
Key Scriptures: Romans 8:1-4 | 1 Corinthians 10:13 | John 15:4-5 | Romans 12:2 | Psalm 37:4 | 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 | Philippians 1:6
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CHAPTERS
00:00 Cold Open — \"I Would Look at Porn Every Day. I Don't Have an Appetite for This Anymore.\"
01:05 Introducing Justin
01:44 Growing Up in Church, College, and When Pornography Took Hold
02:50 A Ten to Twelve Year Steady Relationship With Pornography
03:13 The Miscarriage That Brought Him Low and Brought Him Back to God
04:30 Reading the Bible Chronologically — The Bible Recap Plan
05:10 The Moment Abraham's Sacrifice Changed Everything
05:40 This Is Disgusting. I Don't Have an Appetite for This Anymore.
06:47 How Pornography Fulfilled Every Role — Anger, Boredom, a Bad Day
07:34 What He Tried to Do to Stop — And Why Nothing Lasted
09:18 I Was the Biggest Hypocrite — His Relationship With God During the Struggle
10:06 Listening to Part 1 — What Resonated?
10:35 Being Intentional About Meeting With God — The God Shot
12:00 Pornography Was Just the Tip of the Iceberg
13:36 Romans 12:2 — Renewing the Mind
14:18 You Stopped Nibbling and Started Feasting — Seun Reflects
15:45 Romans 8 — Is It Possible Not to Sin?
17:06 Pornography as One Expression of Idolatry
18:54 What to Say to the Brother Who Is Doing Everything Right and Still Struggling
21:19 Our Salvation Is Not Based on Perfect Execution
21:42 Be Faithful on a Daily Basis — Prayer Without Ceasing
23:58 Psalm 37:4 — Delight Yourself in the Lord
25:58 The Election Night That Revealed Another Idol
27:00 Be in Fellowship — The Walk Was Not Meant to Be Done Alone
27:45 Practical Boundaries: Accountability Software, Social Media, the Gym
29:01 The Disciplines Are the Meal. The Boundaries Are the Accoutrements.
30:10 Don't Hang Out in the Bar If You're Trying Not to Drink
32:12 Nothing Wrong With Obeying the Lord Even When You Don't Feel Like It
33:46 Be Faithful Even When You Forget What You Read
34:55 Closing — Steward This Chapter Faithfully
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