Most Christian men don't have an attendance problem with church. They have a love problem. In this episode of The Next Chapter, Seun Adeyemi makes the case that the men who've drifted from the local church — the one who shows up but never invests, the one who left with legitimate grievances, the one watching online from the comfort of home — aren't dealing with a commitment problem. They're dealing with a self-centered faith that God has already named: idolatry.
Using John 21, Ephesians 5, 1 Corinthians 12, and Proverbs 27, Seun builds the argument that love for Christ is always revealed in how you love God's people — and that the local church is not optional, not replaceable by a screen, and not secondary to your preferences.
Chapters
00:00 — Introduction
00:10 — The Three Men: Consumer, Critic, Digital Attendee
02:00 — The Diagnosis: This Is a Love Problem
03:15 — God Has a Name for It: Idolatry and Pride
05:23 — The Costless Cross: Matthew 16:24
06:44 — The Question Jesus Actually Asked: John 21:15–17
09:36 — Love for Christ Is Always People-Shaped
09:49 — Robbing the Body: 1 Corinthians 12:21
12:05 — The Bride Argument: Ephesians 5:25–27
13:15 — The Husband Illustration
15:42 — The Man Who Attends But Never Sees
16:20 — What the Screen Cannot Give
18:16 — The Real Reason Men Choose the Screen
19:30 — The Beauty of the Broken Church
21:00 — God Is Not Finished: Philippians 1:6 & 2 Corinthians 3:18
22:39 — The Exchange: What These Men Have Traded
23:00 — What Genuine Community Actually Looks Like
24:50 — The Hardest Love: Proverbs 27:6
26:07 — You Can Only Wound a Brother
29:46 — The Bride Named Specifically: Four People
32:35 — Your Testimony to the World: John 13:35
34:41 — The Bride Landing
35:15 — Two Closing Questions
36:09 — If the Answer Is No