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What if the greatest challenges in your marriage aren’t being caused by your spouse… but by wounds you haven’t yet recognized?
In this third conversation of our series with Russ West, we explore how emotional intelligence transforms marriage and why some of the strongest emotional reactions between husbands and wives often have roots that reach far beyond the present moment.
This isn’t a conversation about communication techniques.
It’s a conversation about understanding the person behind the reaction.
Russ explains why emotional safety is foundational to a healthy marriage, how past wounds shape present conflict, and why emotionally intelligent couples learn to pursue understanding before trying to solve problems. Together, we discuss why many husbands become defensive when challenged, how emotional flooding affects conflict, and why marriage often becomes God’s greatest tool for exposing the areas of our hearts that still need healing.
We discuss:
• Why marriage reveals what’s happening beneath the surface
• How emotional intelligence changes the way couples handle conflict
• Understanding emotional flooding, Tigers, and Turtles
• Why emotional safety is essential for a thriving marriage
• How childhood wounds often shape present-day reactions
• Why listening to understand is more powerful than listening to respond
• The difference between solving conflict and managing it well
• How defensiveness quietly damages intimacy
• Practical ways husbands can grow in emotional intelligence
• Why healthy marriages are built through curiosity, humility, and grace
One of the questions we kept coming back to was this:
What if your strongest reactions in marriage have less to do with your spouse… and more to do with the story you’ve been carrying for years?
Emotional intelligence doesn’t eliminate conflict. It helps us understand what’s happening beneath it. As men grow in self-awareness, humility, and emotional maturity, they become better husbands, better leaders, and more faithful reflections of Christ.
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