{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/6941f90b891c3619dca97138/6997e7224c238f5dca910de2?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"Drop the Blame Game: How to Stop Blaming Yourself (and Others)","description":"<p>What if the thing keeping you stuck isn’t your circumstances… but who you’re blaming for them?</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>In this episode, Tess and Layne unpack the blame game through sport, injury and a very real-life moment between the two of them. From sand sprints, stress fractures and the Australian Open final to world titles and wounded egos, this conversation dives into what happens when we look everywhere but within.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Watching Djokovic and Alcaraz battle it out, Layne reflects on the subtle signs of belief versus excuse: body language, composure, where the eyes go under pressure. She shares how, in her early career, every loss had a culprit, the boards, the judges, the wind, anyone but her. Until she realised the common denominator in all her disappointment was herself.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>They explore the science behind blame as a survival mechanism. When we feel threatened, overwhelmed or unsafe, the brain looks for control. Blame gives the illusion of control. But it also keeps us stuck in stress, fuels shame, and quietly drains our energy.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Tess and Layne share a vulnerable moment where blame crept into their own dynamic, and how awareness, regulation and ownership shifted it from defence to growth. The lesson? Ownership without punishment changes everything.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>In this episode, you’ll learn:</p><ul><li>What elite athletes reveal under pressure: belief versus excuse</li><li>Layne’s early career pattern of blaming everyone but herself</li><li>The fear of success, fear of rejection, and how they drive blame</li><li>The neuroscience of blame as a safety response</li><li>How blame turns inward into shame and fuels negative self-talk</li><li>Why poor communication often sits underneath the blame cycle</li><li>Parenting through blame and helping kids feel safe and seen</li><li>A practical toolkit to interrupt the blame loop:</li><li>Name it without judgement</li><li>Regulate before you respond</li><li>Ask what’s in your control</li><li>Separate responsibility from personal attack</li><li>Replace blame with curiosity</li><li>Why people pleasing in conflict prevents real growth</li><li>The freedom that comes from owning your part and letting it go</li></ul><p>&nbsp;</p><p>If you’ve been blaming someone else, or yourself, for where you are right now, this episode is your invitation to pause. To breathe. To look within. And to choose growth over defence.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Because when you drop the blame, you drop the weight.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Connect with Awake</strong></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>• Join the Awake Collective Community for monthly masterclasses</p><p><a href=\"https://awake-academy.mykajabi.com/awake-collective-sales\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://awake-academy.mykajabi.com/awake-collective-sales</a></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>• Get Awake’s transformative book:&nbsp;<em>Know Yourself, Grow Yourself</em></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>• Watch the episodes on YouTube</p><p><a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/@Awake_Academy_\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.youtube.com/@Awake_Academy_</a></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>• Follow Layne on Instagram @laynebeachley</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>• Follow Tess on Instagram @tesscbrouwer</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>• Follow Awake Academy on Instagram @awake_academy</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>• Book us for a workshop:&nbsp;<a href=\"mailto:wakeup@awakeacademy.com.au\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">wakeup@awakeacademy.com.au</a></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>• Awake’s TikTok</p><p><a href=\"https://www.tiktok.com/@awakeacademy\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://www.tiktok.com/@awakeacademy</a>_</p><p><br></p>","author_name":"Layne Beachley AO & Tess Brouwer"}