You say it all the time. \"I don't really ask for much.\" \"I don't want to be a burden.\" \"I'm just low maintenance.\"
And you say it like it's a personality trait. Like it's just who you are.
It's not who you are. It's what you learned.
In this episode, Alyssa introduces the question that has stopped women in their tracks more than any other in her years of clinical work: why not? Why don't you ask for much? Why don't you want people to go out of their way for you? Why do you extend a grace to everyone around you that you won't let them extend back to you?
The answer has nothing to do with being low maintenance. It has everything to do with a rule your nervous system learned a long time ago — in a relationship, a community, a childhood — that needing things had a cost. And you got so good at needing less that you forgot it was ever a choice.
This episode cracks that open. In the best way.
In this episode:
Chapters
00:00
The Struggle of Self-Abandonment
01:30
Understanding the Question: Why Not?
05:03
Personal Story: The Cost of Needing Less
15:37
The Nervous System's Role in Needing Less
19:05
Taking Action: Small Steps to Reconnect
26:09
Building a Supportive Community
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