{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/69264c5fcaf6efa703848a8c/6963dd8b79fe7d5545e7b378?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"We Hurt Where We Care","description":"<p>Dr. Eric Goodman is a clinical psychologist specializing in anxiety disorders, OCD, and phobias. He shares his own history with two major phobias (public speaking and flying) he later treated using exposure principles.</p><p><br></p><p>We dive into what fear and anxiety really are, why they so often feel irrational, and how we can relate to them more skillfully instead of trying to get rid of them. Instead of chasing “anxiety‑free” promises, we explore how curiosity, humility, and shared stories can help us live well with fear while still moving toward what matters.&nbsp;</p><p><br></p><p>If you’re someone who has tried to logic your way out of fear, or who feels like anxiety means you’re broken rather than deeply human, this conversation is for you.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>About Dr. Eric Goodman</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li>Clinical psychologist specializing in anxiety disorders, OCD, and phobias</li><li>Lecturer in the psychology department at California Polytechnic State University (Cal Poly) with a <a href=\"https://coastalcenter.org/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">private practice in San Luis Obispo, California</a></li><li>Author of:</li><li><a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Freak-Out-rescue-manual-being/dp/1922539368\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">The Mindful Freak‑Out: A Rescue Manual for Being at Your Best When Life Is at Its Worst</a></li><li><a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Your-Anxiety-Beast-You-Compassionate/dp/1925820335/ref=sr_1_1\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Your Anxiety Beast and You: A Compassionate Guide for Living in an Increasingly Anxious World</a></li><li><a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Social-Courage-thriving-reality-anxiety/dp/1925335755/ref=sr_1_1\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Social Courage: Coping and Thriving with the Reality of Social Anxiety</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Topics</strong></p><ul><li>Eric’s personal journey through public‑speaking fear and a severe flying phobia</li><li>What exposure therapy really is, and why it must be done without safety behaviors</li><li>Safety behaviors vs. compulsions, and how they keep anxiety stuck</li><li>The “big, dopey guard dog” metaphor for anxiety</li><li>Hunter‑gatherer nervous systems in a modern, always‑on world</li><li>Social media, news, and the rise of generalized anxiety</li><li>Existential dread: death anxiety, fear of hell, and spiritual abuse</li><li>Learning to tolerate uncertainty and live alongside fear</li><li>“We hurt where we care”: anxiety around work, creativity, and relationships</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Chapters</strong></p><p><br></p><p>00:00 Introduction to Fear and Anxiety</p><p>03:14 Personal Experiences with Fear</p><p>08:07 Understanding Phobias and Safety Behaviors</p><p>14:53 The Language of the Nervous System</p><p>21:24 Modern Anxiety in a Digital World</p><p>27:48 Existential Dread and Coping Mechanisms</p><p>33:55 Spirituality, Fear, and Healing</p><p>36:39 Cultural Messages About Fear</p><p>37:31 Understanding Anxiety: A Natural Part of Life</p><p>42:45 The Role of Mindfulness in Managing Anxiety</p><p>45:06 When Anxiety Becomes Detrimental</p><p>48:57 Facing Fears: The Path to Overcoming Anxiety</p><p>53:18 The Wisdom of Fear: Navigating Life's Threats</p><p>57:22 The Dual Nature of Fear: Protection vs. Paralysis</p><p>01:01:18 Reframing Fear: From Pain to Power</p><p>01:05:26 Practical Steps for Managing Anxiety</p><p>01:07:12 Understanding Anxiety as a Protective Mechanism</p><p>01:08:11 Fear: A Companion in Modern Life</p><p><br></p><p><br></p>","author_name":"Crystal Marie"}