{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/68f03d18c0456d557e9af496/692db7b0f3716323753b7ae5?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"Self Compassion: The Art of Slowing Down & Debunking the Laziness Myth","description":"<p>In this cozy episode, Tolu welcomes listeners to the \"wind-down season\" as the year 2025 comes to a close and the first snow falls in Calgary. She shares exciting life updates, including a creative sprint that led to the rebranding of her group therapy practice, <a href=\"http://www.ashaytherapy.ca\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>Ashay Therapy</strong></a>.</p><p>The episode tackles a listener's dilemma regarding a supportive but emotionally unavailable partner, offering advice on identifying needs and assessing long-term compatibility. The core of the episode delves into <strong>Self-Compassion</strong>, specifically tailored for eldest daughters, high achievers, and those battling the \"inner critic.\" Tolu debunks the myths that rest equals laziness and shares practical tools to help reset your nervous system without guilt.</p><p><br></p><p>To submit your anonymous questions, please click this <a href=\"https://forms.gle/MiYMNQqchGujV8M37\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">link</a>.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Timestamps</strong></p><ul><li><strong>00:00</strong> – Welcome, weather updates, and embracing the \"wind-down\" season of 2025.</li><li><strong>02:35</strong> – <strong>Life Update:</strong> The \"Creative Sprint,\" working with a brand designer, and the launch of the new <em>Ashay Therapy</em> website.</li><li><strong>10:09</strong> – <strong>The Dilemma:</strong> Advice for a listener whose partner is supportive but emotionally unavailable.</li><li><strong>13:06</strong> – <strong>Main Topic:</strong> The journey to self-compassion, \"Eldest Daughter Syndrome,\" and overcoming grad school burnout.</li><li><strong>14</strong>:<strong>27: </strong>Tolu spoke about how she learnt Self-Compassion in the hard and how her therapist helped her.</li><li><strong>17:00</strong> – <strong>Busting Popular Myths about Self-Compassion:</strong></li><li><em>Myth 1:</em> It means you are lazy (Refutation: It is a nervous system reset).</li><li><em>Myth 2:</em> It lowers your standards (Refutation: Rest improves consistency).</li><li><em>Myth 3:</em> High achievers don't need it (Refutation: They need it the most).</li><li><strong>24:57: </strong>Self-Compassion as an act of resistance. Humanity matters than your productivity</li><li><strong>26:30</strong> – Tolu highlighted some key points in <strong>Bronnie Ware</strong>’s <em>The Top Five Regrets of the Dying</em>.</li><li><strong>27:20</strong> – <strong>Practical Exercises:</strong> 5 ways to practice self-compassion, including noticing the inner critic and taking \"small pauses\" without guilt.</li><li><strong>29:50 -</strong> <strong>Closing Reflection</strong>: Give yourself permission to have ease.</li></ul>","author_name":"Tolu Adepoju"}