{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/68c2133eaca3521c762288df/6980df66d77e5e94dc7dc664?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"Episode 195 - Why there is no such thing as win-lose in relationships","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/68c2133eaca3521c762288df/1770053101187-789f7987-2874-48ea-8fbe-b58725684dc6.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p>Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 195 - \"Why there is no such thing as win-lose in relationships\" is now LIVE!</p><p><br></p><p>Full Show notes: <a href=\"https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide</a></p><p><br></p><p>In life, you win some and you lose some. However, when it comes to our relationships, there is no win-lose. If it's not a win-win, it's a lose-lose and if something doesn't work for one person, it doesn't actually work for the other person or the needs of the relationship.&nbsp;Tune in to discover how finding the win-win can drastically change and improve the relationships in your life by creating something that works for everyone.</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode we cover:</p><ul><li>Raining iguanas and exploding trees</li><li>Why there is no win-lose in relationships</li><li>The effects our relationships have on our needs</li><li>Understanding and recognizing interconnectedness</li><li>How winning an argument can negatively impact our needs</li><li>The repercussions of disconnecting from someone's humanity</li><li>What winning actually is</li><li>The culture of competition in relationships</li><li>When team building builds walls</li><li>Putting energy into collaboration rather than competition</li><li>Finding what works for everyone</li><li>Planting seeds of resentment</li><li>Using an \"ideal world\" to find a win-win and create a more supportive relationship</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Episode References:</p><p><br></p><ul><li>The Interaction Dynamics (shapes) episodes - Episodes 159-169</li><li>The Drama Triangle episodes</li><li>Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim Approach -</li><li>Episode 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor Approach</li><li>Episode 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer Approach</li><li>Episode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmful</li><li>The Empowerment Dynamic episodes</li><li>Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator Approach</li><li>Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6)</li><li>Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor Approach</li><li>The other \"shapes\" episodes -</li><li>Episode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 8) - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering one</li><li>Episode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of it (Shapes 9)</li><li>Episode 168 - How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10)</li><li>Episode 169 - Understanding the shapes in the context of movies</li><li>The Selfirst episodes </li><li>Episode 2 - The wisdom of Joey Tribbiani (An introduction to being Selfirst) </li><li>Episode 20 - Selfirst Series: What is Selfirst? Let's get specific… </li><li>Episode 21 - Selfirst Series: The difference between doing harm and not meeting needs that were never your responsibility </li><li>Episode 22 - Selfirst Series: A safe space vs a comfortable space, how a comfortable space can actually cost your needs</li><li>The red green spectrum episode - Episode 121 - How trying to maintain an image can compromise your needs</li><li>The Needs Ecosystem episode - Episode 36 - Self worth Series: Why it's so hard to feel 'enough'</li></ul><p><br></p>","author_name":"The Universal Needs"}