In this episode John talks to Ben about one of the most confusing and frustrating aspects of addiction: denial. The deception, dishonesty and lies can be maddening. But is something more powerful and complex at work? Drawing on John's own experience of alcoholism and his experience as a professor of addiction and counsellor, John explains why many drinkers genuinely struggle to recognise the problem, why blame and excuses become part of addiction, and why families so often feel gaslit, angry, frustrated, offended and exhausted. John discusses practical ways to avoid being drawn into impossible arguments, focus on the consequences rather than the drinking itself, and explain why hope—not confrontation—is often the key to lasting change.
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Dr John McMahon is a professor and was the senior lecturer for addiction counsellors at the University of the West of Scotland. He has led prominent studies into alcohol addiction for more than 15 years. Before this, for many years, John had an addiction to alcohol. He has been sober for over 40 years.
Lou Lewis is a professional counsellor and the co-founder of Bottled Up with John. Lou's first husband had an addiction to alcohol for many years, from that experience and her counselling Lou has a deep understanding of the difficulties of living with problem drinkers.
John and Lou are married and live in England. They founded Bottled Up in the hope that it would help change your life.
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