{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/68226283ca7273465242d890/6a96f9af66efea21e0040dec?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"Empathy With Backbone: Leading Through Tough Conversations with Rob Volpe","description":"<p>Most leaders agree that empathy matters. Putting it into practice can be harder especially when people disagree, performance falls short, or a difficult decision needs to be made.</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, Dr. Kristine Gentry and Monica M. Smith sit down with Rob Volpe, author of <em>Tell Me More About That: Solving the Empathy Crisis One Conversation at a Time,</em> to explore how empathy becomes a practical leadership skill.</p><p><br></p><p>From the frozen vegetable aisle of a Walmart to conversations about workplace accountability, Rob shares how curiosity about people’s lives shaped his work and how leaders can bring that same curiosity to their teams.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>What we explore:</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li><strong>Understanding someone’s perspective.</strong> Rob distinguishes cognitive empathy from emotional empathy and explains why perspective-taking is especially useful at work.</li><li><strong>Recognizing what gets in the way.</strong> How judgment, stereotypes, assumptions, and distraction can prevent us from hearing what someone is actually saying.</li><li><strong>Asking questions that invite conversation.</strong> Why Rob encourages open, exploratory questions and phrases such as “Tell me more about that.”</li><li><strong>Finding common ground.</strong> An ice cream exercise demonstrates how people with different preferences can work toward a shared decision.</li><li><strong>Combining empathy and accountability.</strong> How leaders can approach performance concerns and difficult departures while preserving someone’s dignity.</li><li><strong>Making empathy part of the organization.</strong> Rob’s “empathy ecosystem” connects mission and values, leadership behavior, communication, systems and processes, and relationships with the wider community.</li><li><strong>Keeping human development in view.</strong> We discuss the role of relationships, intentional connection in remote teams, and our concerns about relying on AI to replace developmental conversations.</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Rob’s Five Steps to Empathy</strong></p><p><br></p><ol><li><strong>Dismantle judgment:</strong> Notice the assumptions and biases shaping your response.</li><li><strong>Ask good questions:</strong> Invite people to explain their experience in their own words.</li><li><strong>Actively listen:</strong> Be present and recognize when distraction gets in the way.</li><li><strong>Integrate into understanding:</strong> Make room for perspectives different from your own.</li><li><strong>Use solution imagination:</strong> Apply what you’ve learned to move the conversation toward a constructive outcome.</li></ol><p><br></p><p>Rob explains that these steps are a practice to develop, rather than a rigid sequence. Different situations reveal different barriers.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Episode chapters</strong></p><p>00:01 — Welcome and introducing Rob Volpe</p><p>02:09 — What consumer research taught Rob about empathy</p><p>06:41 — Why “empathy activist”?</p><p>12:03 — Cognitive and emotional empathy explained</p><p>17:14 — The Five Steps to Empathy</p><p>19:42 — The ice cream game: Finding common ground</p><p>23:35 — Modeling empathy and establishing team ground rules</p><p>27:38 — Difficult feedback, accountability, and dignity</p><p>30:23 — Developing people in a workplace shaped by AI</p><p>36:05 — Building an organizational empathy ecosystem</p><p>39:20 — What gets in the way of connection?</p><p>44:16 — How do you want to be remembered as a leader?</p><p>46:07 — Rob’s book and where to connect</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><strong>About our guest</strong></p><p>Rob Volpe is an empathy activist, speaker, trainer, and coach who helps people and organizations strengthen connection and understanding. He founded the insights firm Ignite 360.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Connect with Rob and explore his work</strong></p><ul><li><a href=\"https://www.robvolpe.expert/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Rob Volpe’s website</a></li><li><a href=\"https://www.robvolpe.expert/books\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Tell Me More About That — book information and purchasing options</a></li><li><a href=\"https://www.robvolpe.expert/content-archive/5-ways-to-put-empathy-to-work-right-now\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Rob’s guide to the Five Steps to Empathy</a></li><li><a href=\"https://mariaross.com/the-empathy-edge/what-does-it-mean-to-be-human-ep-6-the-whole-messy-thing-we-want-to-protect/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">What Does It Mean to Be Human? — the concluding episode of Rob and Maria Ross’s series on The Empathy Edge</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p>If this conversation brought someone to mind, send them the episode. Follow Collaborative Culture and leave a rating or review to help more people find practical conversations about culture, leadership, and collaboration.</p>","author_name":"Kristine Gentry and Monica M. Smith"}