What happens when the person you no longer trust is you?
In this deeply personal episode of Finishing School for the Soul, Roianne explores the moment she realised that the mistrust she carried after the end of a relationship wasn’t only about the person who had hurt her. Somewhere along the way, she had stopped trusting herself.
Because self-betrayal doesn’t always arrive dramatically.
Sometimes it looks like staying when you know you should leave. Silencing yourself to keep the peace. Compromising one more thing. Showing up fiercely for everyone else while repeatedly failing to show up for yourself.
And eventually, you begin to wonder: Can I trust myself to protect me?
This is a journaling episode, so bring your notebook.
Roianne explores the relationship between self-trust, forgiveness, anger and self-care, including the uncomfortable ways we can punish ourselves when we haven't forgiven the choices we've made. She reflects on the spa days she paid for but couldn't bring herself to attend, the solo trips she has never taken, and the realisation that caring for herself sometimes felt like taking something away from somebody else.
She also asks a bigger question about relationships: when we compromise pieces of ourselves for another person, do we ever intentionally reclaim them when that relationship ends?
Perhaps rebuilding self-trust isn't about becoming someone new.
Perhaps it's about gathering up the pieces of yourself you've left behind.
Grab your journal and reflect:
Class is in session.
It’s time to rebuild the most important relationship you have: the one with yourself.
Finishing School for the Soul — because in the middle of busy lives, we still need to remember to feed our souls.
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