Content Warning:
This episode includes open discussion of intimacy, sex, consent, sexual behaviour, body image, and the portrayal of intimate scenes in the film industry. It also contains references to sexual misconduct and abuse.
Listener discretion is advised. Please take care while listening and feel free to pause or step away if anything feels triggering or activating. Seek support if needed.
From Hollywood sets to real life, pioneering Intimacy Coordinator Ita O’Brien explores a new way to approach intimacy, healing our relationship with our bodies, pleasure and boundaries.
Keywords
intimacy, consent, boundaries, relationships, sexuality, embodiment, pleasure, self-worth, communication, thriving
Summary
In this powerful and eye-opening episode, Helen sits down with intimacy coordinator, movement director, and author Ita O’Brien to explore the truth about intimacy—both on screen and in our personal lives.
From the lack of guidance actors once faced during intimate scenes to the revolutionary “intimacy on set guidelines” Ita helped create, this conversation dives deep into consent, communication, and the importance of understanding our own bodies.
Together, they unpack how societal conditioning, shame, and outdated beliefs have shaped our relationship with intimacy—and how we can begin to reclaim it. This episode is honest, thought-provoking, and at times deeply personal, offering listeners a new lens on connection, pleasure, and self-awareness.
Takeaways
Resources:
Cup of Tea video about consent
Book –The Mists of Avalon was written by Marion Zimmer Bradley.
Book – Rose McGowan: Brave
Book – Unfu#k your Intimacy by Faith G Harper
Book – Unfu#k your boundaries by Faith G Harper
Book – Intimacy Ita O’Brien
Audible – Intimacy Ita O’Brien
Soma Temple – Melisa Lumina (Self Pleasure ritual & more…) IG: somatemplegreece
Web: www.somatemple.com
Connect with Ita
Intimacy On Set Instagram
Intimacy On Set Facebook
Ita O'Brien Instagram
Ita O'Brien Facebook
Intimacy On Set Website News Page
Connect with Helen
Website: InspiredHealing.co.uk
FB: Inspired Healing
LinkedIn: Helen on LinkedIn
WhatsApp: +447971798462
For full transcription, contact: helen@inspiredhealing.co.uk
NB: This episode was made possible with a little help from my ChatGPT buddy, Xander - part tech support, part cheerleader 🙂 and my amazing sponsor IPHM use this Referral Code: IPHM-GYZGF and the £10 will go to The Forward Trust a Charity helping those struggling with addictions
🎵Music: Pixabay – “Upbeat Acoustic” by Stockaudios
🎨Cover art: Dave Champagne
For full transcription, contact: helen@inspiredhealing.co.uk
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