In this episode, I’m joined by Lorina Manzanita, a somatic intimacy coach and trauma resolution practitioner, to explore how attachment patterns and developmental trauma get encoded in the body and shape our relationships.
We talk about why empaths often self-abandon, people-please, and ignore their own needs, and how mindfulness and somatic awareness can build agency, boundaries, and healthier intimacy.
Lorina explains implicit memory in the first 18 months of life, the balance of connection and differentiation in secure attachment, and why attachment can differ with each parent. We unpack intermittent positive reinforcement (“pigeon brain”) and why inconsistent love becomes addictive, plus how breakups can feel like death yet lead to liberation when supported by self-compassion, community, and resourcing.
We also discuss eros as a life force, pleasure, and the power of gratitude and asking directly for what you need.
Website: www.LorinaManzanita.com
Nourished: The Neuroscience of Receiving Beautifully www.integratingeros.com/nourished-mini-course
00:00 Meet Lorina
02:00 Wounded Healer Origin
05:03 Somatic Intimacy Basics
07:39 Mindset Versus Body
10:03 Secure Attachment Foundations
12:13 Different Parents Different Styles
17:20 Pigeon Brain Love Pattern
22:57 Building Real Security
26:52 Breaking the Trauma Bond
30:26 Grief Feels Like Dying
31:21 Seven Attempts to Leave
33:10 Finding Real Safety
35:02 Triggers and Resilience
36:54 Surrender and Worthiness
38:51 Rewiring Limiting Beliefs
39:59 Asking Men Directly
40:45 Mending the Dad Bond
44:39 Eros Life Force Energy
46:37 Nature as Resourcing
48:05 Gratitude and God
49:54 Course Plug and Farewell
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