This episode originally aired on July 1, 2025.
If you or someone you love is experiencing domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or visit www.thehotline.org
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What if the chaos you’re in feels familiar—because it is?
In this validating and unflinching episode of Bitch Is a Bad Word, I’m joined by somatic trauma expert Phoenix Gould for a conversation that will hit home for anyone who’s ever loved someone who flipped from warm to cruel in seconds—and made you feel like it was your fault.
We explore the terrifying emotional terrain of narcissistic relationships, especially for women conditioned in childhood to tolerate emotional abandonment. Phoenix shares how our nervous systems respond in survival mode, why basic kindness can feel revolutionary, and what it really means to practice self-love when leaving isn’t yet an option.
Inside This Episode:
• Why stonewalling and the silent treatment feel so familiar
• The biological reason your brain can’t “think clearly” in the relationship
• What happens when a narcissist senses they’re losing control
• How to hold space for shame without letting it define you
• Whether healing is even possible while you’re still with them
About Phoenix Gould:
Phoenix is a somatic trauma educator and therapist who helps survivors of abuse reclaim their bodies, boundaries, and sense of self. Her work centers on nervous system repair, radical self-compassion, and empowering women to break generational patterns.
For Radical Self-Love Coaching, Find Phoenix:
On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/phoenixcorecoaching/
WhatsApp: +1 780-268-9888
Or Email Her: phoenix@phoenixcore.ca
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