{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/672e31ae61e4ef810f426f96/6ad52d32336b44639e0607dc?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"#99 – If It’s Gonna Hurt My Feelings, I’m Not Asking","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/672e31ae61e4ef810f426f96/1792354820518-49b1f83b-a22d-4f0f-a991-cd667b38df1e.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p>This week, we’re talking about promotions, honest feedback at work, and the questions you shouldn’t ask if you can’t take the answer: a coworker asked Jocelyn whether she’d be considered for manager, and Jocelyn, who manages a team, told her no and gave her two reasons. We also get into whether the employee who says that’s not my job still deserves a raise, why promotions should never go by seniority, and Jade’s ruling on asking a follow-up when your feelings are already hurt. Then the peanut butter and chili fallout: the clip pulled 31,000 views and almost 2,000 comments, Indiana said not my Indiana, and Jade says Indiana is a real yet fictitious place. Whether you’re navigating a promotion you didn’t get, a question you wish you hadn’t asked, or a food debate you didn’t start, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen.</p><h2>Acast Show Notes</h2><ul><li>That’s not my job: Jocelyn says if they’re meeting expectations, they still get the raise</li><li>Jocelyn: read your job description. And other duties as assigned means anything is your job now. Jade: job hazard</li><li>Jade: I don’t wanna be a culture fit, I wanna fit the job. Jocelyn: the culture at work is a facade anyway</li><li>Jade: my mom always said how people feel about you ain’t none of your business</li><li>Jocelyn: promotions should never go by seniority. Promote the girl who’s been here two years working circles around everybody</li><li>Ask Jocelyn a question at your own risk. Do you want the truth, or do you want confirming information?</li><li>Jocelyn: I think through how I’ll feel about the answer before I ask. If my feelings would be hurt, I’m not asking</li><li>A coworker asked Jocelyn if she’d be considered for manager. Jocelyn told her no: you don’t advocate for yourself, and you only do your job</li><li>Jade: if your feelings already hurt, why you ask a follow-up?</li><li>Jocelyn: take a three-hour process down to one, and now you’re a promotion candidate</li><li>Jade: you care enough to improve things. You wanna lead</li><li>Jocelyn: what did you do outside your job description that told them you were ready? Your boss is not a mind reader</li><li>Jade: been here 20 years doing subpar work? So what. Jocelyn: what value are you adding?</li><li>Jocelyn read the comments: just about every Black person said no, and a lot of white people said it’s amazing</li><li>School lunch: Jade’s Indiana cafeteria had smothered pork chops. Jocelyn’s Chicago one had Super Donuts</li><li>Jocelyn’s poll flipped from 60 percent crazy work to 58 percent yes</li><li>Jade wants to try the cinnamon roll in the chili. The comments said don’t lie on us</li><li>Jocelyn: Indiana is not the Midwest. We’re closer to Virginia than Wyoming. Jade: people just refuse to stop calling it that</li><li>Jocelyn: you don’t have to try everything to know it’s not for you. Never had chitlins. Jade: I smelt them once and that was enough</li><li>Jocelyn: don’t yuck my yum? I hate that phrase. Eat it if you like it</li><li>Thirty combinations from the comments: cinnamon rolls with American cheese, peanut butter and honey, peanut butter and Miracle Whip</li><li>Chili mac: Jocelyn’s mom made it in Chicago. Jade: that’s hamburger helper</li><li>Chicken nuggets in a Frosty? Jade would try a spicy one. Jocelyn puts sugar in her grits. Jade: cilantro tastes like soap</li><li>Jade puts butter on the back of a Pop-Tart. Jocelyn, an extremely picky eater, doesn’t like Pop-Tarts at all</li><li>Where do you stand on the chili debate?</li><li>Merch is live on the website: hats, hoodies, shirts, and cups</li></ul>","author_name":"Sweetheart Creations LLC"}