{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/672e31ae61e4ef810f426f96/6acbb8a03b418431377d8388?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"#98 – Iced Coffee at the Interview? Girl, Leave It in the Car","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/672e31ae61e4ef810f426f96/1791735506912-12112b01-33fa-42f3-a4a0-75cca5b9bccb.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p>This week, we’re talking about the iced coffee job interview debate, adult friendship, and what people hear versus what you actually said: Jocelyn hires people, and between two equal candidates she is picking the one who did not bring the iced coffee, Jade wants to know how serious you take yourself if you did, and neither of them thinks it was ever about the coffee. We also get into whether your friends are supposed to be your fans, the team building where Jocelyn’s coworkers almost outed the podcast, the resumes that list SQL and Python until you ask one question, Jocelyn’s case for ending the handshake, the servers clip that turned into a fight about something neither of them said, and the stereotypes about Black women that neither of them fits. Whether you’re navigating a job interview, friends who don’t show up for you, or a comment section that heard what it wanted to hear, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen.</p><h2>Show Notes</h2><ul><li>Your friends are not your fans: Jocelyn read the line, and neither of them agrees with it</li><li>Team building, two truths and a lie, and Jocelyn hates that game</li><li>The iced coffee interview: whether it’s acceptable is a different question from whether you’d do it</li><li>Jocelyn: what do people think the purpose of an interview is?</li><li>Jocelyn’s pet peeve: clammy hands. Jade’s wish: that COVID had ended the handshake for good</li><li>Jade: we got bigger fish to fry than the iced coffee</li><li>The HR rep who started it, and what frowned upon actually means</li><li>Jocelyn: I’m in the business of letting full-grown adults learn their own lessons</li><li>Jocelyn: no sleeve, sweating on the desk, shaking it every sip. That’s a self-awareness issue</li><li>Neither of them works for a Fortune 500</li><li>What we said versus what people heard: the servers clip, and what they actually said about finding another job</li><li>We said we tip. You still have to earn it</li><li>Tipping is rooted in racism, and that is a different conversation than the one they were having</li><li>Jade: it’s called A Girl’s Perspective, not A Girl’s Facts</li><li>Jade: who are you that we gotta lie about tipping? Believe what you wanna believe, boo</li><li>Jade: I’m not giving you $30 because you said hello. My food is cold</li><li>Jocelyn is active in the comments, and the loudest people never have a rebuttal</li><li>Jocelyn: you’re not going off what you heard, you’re going off what you felt</li><li>The clip that hit 400,000 views, and the comments that assigned a race to a story that never mentioned one</li><li>Jocelyn’s pet peeve: taking a stereotype and spreading it. It does not make you look educated</li><li>Jade: trifling is trifling. Every group does it</li><li>Jade: the comments people leave on our content hurt my heart</li><li>Jocelyn babysat for her brother for an hour or two. Not a trip to Miami</li><li>Men use kids as weapons too, and nobody brings that up</li><li>Jocelyn: blanket something on me because of the color of my skin and I’m triggered, because I try hard not to fit the stereotypes</li><li>Baby mama drama, cheating, welfare: every community has it, and only one gets the label</li><li>Jade: when we read it, I never thought about race. I thought, she trifling</li><li>Jocelyn has not dealt with much outright racism, with one exception she tells</li><li>Jade has. They followed her around with it at a job, lied on her, and reported her to HR</li><li>Jocelyn: don’t like me because of my skin? Fine. Leave me alone. Jade: they don’t. They’re obsessed with you</li><li>Positive stereotypes for Black people, and Jade’s problem with “if you’re lost, find a Black woman”</li><li>Jade hates the one about all Black women being able to cook. Jade lists all Black people can dance, and Jocelyn cannot</li><li>Jade cannot play Spades. Neither of them fits the last stereotype on the list either</li><li>Free therapy, and does your mama know you’re in the comments doing this?</li><li>Over 100 followers on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Merch is live: cups, shirts, hats, and hoodies</li></ul>","author_name":"Sweetheart Creations LLC"}