In this powerful and reassuring episode of The Child Psych Podcast, we’re joined by Devon Kuntzman — parenting educator, early childhood specialist, and author of Transforming Toddlerhood.
If you’ve ever felt exhausted by tantrums, constant power struggles, hitting, biting, screaming, or endless “no’s,” this conversation will completely shift how you see toddler behavior.
Devon helps parents understand one of the most important truths about early childhood: toddlers are not trying to manipulate, embarrass, or control us. Their behavior is communication rooted in an immature nervous system, developing brain, overwhelming emotions, and an intense need for connection and safety.
Together, we unpack why traditional discipline approaches like punishment, threats, shame, and time-outs often backfire during the toddler years—and what children are actually learning when fear and control are used. Devon explains what’s happening inside a toddler’s brain during meltdowns, why emotional regulation and impulse control cannot yet be expected, and how parents can respond in ways that support long-term resilience, emotional health, and nervous system regulation.
This episode is deeply validating for overwhelmed parents who are trying to parent differently while carrying the pressure of cultural expectations around obedience and behavior.
Most importantly, Devon reminds us that discipline is not about control—it’s about teaching, connection, co-regulation, and helping children feel safe enough to grow.
This episode offers reassurance, insight, and a powerful reframe that many parents have been waiting for.
Devon's Book \"Transforming Toddlerhood: How to Handle Tantrums, End Power Struggles, and Raise Resilient Kids---Without Losing Your Mind\" --> https://a.co/9AGhuXk
Devon is a featured speaker at our 2026 Children's Mental Health and Parenting Summit. To register for this FREE event please visit: https://instituteofchildpsychology.com/summit-registration-spring-2026/
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