{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/66e198347fb05edbd0d09ae1/6a2b0306479dfe546fb7c3b1?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"How might criticism be enabling rather than shaming?","description":"<p>Why is criticism often so hard to take? What is it inside us that shrinks when someone points out something we've missed, we lack or we've done 'wrong'? Who sets the parameters for 'right and wrong' and what does it actually mean to 'critique' someone?</p><p><br></p><p>In this week's episode we explore the qualities of criticism and why - all too often - it can elicit feelings of shame and worthlessness in the recipient. We explore some of the nuances of shame; explore the different qualities of 'lack' that are sometimes apparent in the giver and receiver of criticism and discuss at length the value and strength of criticism that allows both parties to grow together - something that is perhaps hard to do but so generative when it happens.</p><p><br></p><p>In the conversation we reference the following:</p><p><br></p><ul><li><a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=psN1DORYYV0\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Listening to Shame</a> - Brené Brown (TED talk video)</li><li>'<a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UhXsqv8b7mE\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">How Not to Be Defensive in Relationships' </a>- The School of Life (video)</li><li><a href=\"https://tse1.mm.bing.net/th/id/OIP.5zZPybwFqoXs51J7yzzYIgHaE1?r=0&amp;pid=Api\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">The support/challenge matrix </a>(PDF)</li><li><a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/watch?si=c5O0x7POEanBTbZV&amp;t=22&amp;v=NmJPpk7YgEQ&amp;feature=youtu.be\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Peonies opening</a> (video)</li><li><a href=\"https://youtube.com/shorts/QPTS7KOX3-A?si=2Ie-AfYS7fIGSXDu\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Being Nice vs Being Kind</a> - Trevor Noah (video)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><br></p><h3><strong>There's an inconvenient movement growing...</strong></h3><p>It's not rebellion, exactly. More of a quiet refusal to look away. We're&nbsp;inconvenient. And if you feel it, then maybe you are too. Join us.</p><p><br></p><p><a href=\"https://thoughtboxeducation.com/the-inconvenient-club\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><em>Join The Inconvenient Club</em></a><em> from £5 a month. Find out more at </em><a href=\"http://www.thoughtboxeducation.com/the-inconvenient-club\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">www.thoughtboxeducation.com/the-inconvenient-club</a></p>","author_name":"ThoughtBox Education"}