{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/66cf2043798a02eed43ecb54/69dc17f3fdeddc4b123e51af?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"How to be bisexual in a monogamous relationship","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/66cf2043798a02eed43ecb54/1776031428171-73d4fc99-5ffe-4e42-b075-7361f25c2809.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p>We're back. Season 2 is here and we are straight into it. Well, not straight...</p><p><br></p><p>This week we're tackling one of the most requested topics in the history of this show: how do you stay connected to your bi+ identity when you're in a monogamous relationship? And what does your partner actually need to know?</p><p><br></p><p>Whether you've ever thought&nbsp;<em>maybe I'm not bi enough because I'm in a relationship</em>, or you're a partner trying to figure out how to show up, this one's for both of you.</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode:</p><ul><li><strong>Attraction, identity and relationship agreement are three completely different things.</strong>&nbsp;We use Robyn Ochs' definition of bisexuality to unpack why the \"scorecard\" question is the wrong question entirely — and who keeps asking for it.</li><li><strong>Mixed orientation relationships.</strong>&nbsp;What happens when one person in a relationship is bi+ and the other isn't, and why the unspoken agreement is almost always the most dangerous one.</li><li><strong>For the partner listening.</strong>&nbsp;Your bi+ person isn't afraid of you. They're afraid of everything the world has told you about them. There's a difference and it matters.</li><li><strong>The research is clear.</strong>&nbsp;Partner acceptance doesn't just make bi+ people feel better. It makes relationships better. We get into why.</li><li><strong>Chad's personal story.</strong>&nbsp;Coming out to his late partner Heidi mid-relationship — the rupture it created, the conversations that followed, and how it became one of the greatest joys of his life.</li><li><strong>And more!</strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p>Monogamy does not cancel bisexuality. Non-monogamy does not prove it.</p><p><br></p><p>Links:</p><ul><li><a href=\"https://tinyurl.com/n5rpd4dc\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Join the Give It To Me Bi community</a></li><li><a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/giveittomebi/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Follow us on Instagram</a></li><li><a href=\"https://www.starobserver.com.au/opinion/give-it-to-me-bi-no-script-for-this/241478?utm_source=show_notes&amp;utm_medium=&amp;utm_campaign=episode-27&amp;utm_term=giveittomebi\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Star Observer column</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><em>Give It To Me Bi acknowledges that we live and work on Gadigal land. We pay our respects to elders past and present. Sovereignty was never ceded.</em></p>","author_name":"Chad Barnier, Steve Spencer"}