{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/66bd6d74bfd1cf03a5655644/6ad2e329d3bfab176e18339d?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"Navigating Family Violence and Coercive Control as a Male Victim with Tim from Stand Again","description":"<p>This week on <em>A Lawyer and a Mediator Walk into a Bar</em>, Dianne Loveday and Paula Appelhans sit down with Tim, founder of Stand Again, to discuss the often-overlooked reality of male victims of domestic and family violence. Tim unpacks how coercive control manifests specifically against men, the psychological toll of hypervigilance, and why male victims are frequently misidentified by the legal system. Drawing from his lived experience and his work as a trauma coach, Tim provides actionable strategies for men trying to advocate for themselves, protect their relationship with their children, and navigate the complexities of the family court system</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources </strong></p><ul><li>Stand Again: Visit standagain.com.au for educational resources and support.</li><li>Self-Assessment Tool: Take the Coercive Control Self-Assessment Tool (CCSAT) to help identify abusive relationship dynamics.</li><li>Tim&#39;s Book: <em>Coercive Control: Every Tactic Explained</em>.</li><li>Bayside Mediation: Connect with Dianne Loveday at Bayside Mediation.</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong> Key Takeaways:</strong></p><ul><li>The Foundation of Stand Again: Why Tim launched his organisation in 2025 to provide targeted education, one-on-one coaching, and advocacy for male victims of DFV.</li><li>Recognising Coercive Control: How abusive partners weaponise traditional roles—such as the &quot;provider&quot; or &quot;protector&quot; narratives—and employ tactics like maternal superiority to control finances and social circles.</li><li>The &quot;FOG&quot; of Abuse: Understanding how fear, obligation, and guilt are used to maintain control and isolate victims.</li><li>The Danger of Misidentification: The systemic challenges men face when seeking help, including the risk of being unfairly routed into Men’s Behavior Change programs instead of receiving victim support.</li><li>Navigating the Legal System: Practical advice for men on managing emotional dysregulation during litigation, understanding the &quot;long game&quot; in family court, and effectively communicating with a high-conflict co-parent.</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Need Support?</strong></p><p>If you or someone you know is impacted by family violence, support is available:</p><ul><li><strong>Emergency:</strong> Call <strong>000</strong> if you are in immediate danger.</li><li><strong>1800 RESPECT:</strong> Call <strong>1800 737 732</strong> for confidential information, counseling, and support (24/7).</li><li><strong>Lifeline:</strong> Call <strong>13 11 14</strong> for crisis support and suicide prevention services (24/7).</li><li><strong>MensLine Australia:</strong> Call <strong>1300 78 99 78</strong> for men supporting family and relationship concerns.</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Disclaimer &amp; Note from the Hosts:</strong></p><p>The information shared in this podcast is for general educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute formal legal advice. The views, stories, and insights expressed in this episode reflect the personal professional experiences and observations of Paula Applehans (Family Lawyer) and Diane Loveday (Mediator) working within the Australian legal and mediation spaces. Every family law matter is unique; please consult Paul or Dianne for advice specific to your personal situation. </p>","author_name":"Dianne Loveday & Paula Appelhans"}