Most people think regulating their nervous system means calming down. Breathing slower. Meditating harder. Journalling more.
And when that doesn’t work? They assume they’re doing it wrong.
In this episode, Jane (creator of the MirrorWalk Method) and I flip that on its head. Because it’s not that the tools are wrong. It’s that we’ve been using them the wrong way round.
If your system is stuck in survival mode, forcing calm can actually make things worse. Top-down tools – thinking, analysing, trying to relax your way out of stress – often aren’t what a dysregulated system needs.
Why?
Because 80% of the messages that regulate your nervous system travel from your body to your brain. Not the other way round.
So we don’t start with “calm your thoughts.”
We start with safety in the body.
We talk about:
• Why joy isn’t indulgent – it’s regulatory
• Why movement beats white-knuckling stillness
• Why rhythm and familiarity matter more than you think
• Why trying to “relax properly” can backfire
And then Jane shares her MirrorWalk Method – a simple but powerful bottom-up practice that’s exploding for a reason (over 40k followers on Instagram).
Because it works.
This isn’t another “just breathe” conversation. It’s honest. It’s energising. And it might completely change how you think about stress and regulation.
This is genuinely one of the best conversations I’ve had.
If you’ve been trying to force calm and wondering why it’s not landing…You need to hear this one.
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