{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/664df1ec94d1f4001242cd72/68769b6a5d5bb088747d1d00?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"is it fair to feel upset if i ask for help and your response isn't eager?","description":"<p>In this episode, we talk about how vulnerable it can feel to name a need, the weight of perceived pushback, and how quickly it can spiral. We dig into what we call <em>the nag paradox</em>—that toxic loop of asking, resisting, escalating, and shutting down—and how it traps so many of us in a cycle of sacrifice, resentment, and disconnection.</p><p><br></p><p>Mentioned:</p><p><a href=\"https://bookshop.org/a/55904/9781541603516\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Wages For Housework by Emily Callaci </a></p><p><br></p><p>Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at <a href=\"https://timetoleanpod.substack.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">timetoleanpod.substack.com</a></p><p>Preorder <a href=\"https://www.lauradanger.com/no-more-mediocre\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><em>No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More</em></a></p><p>Follow Laura: <a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/thatdarnchat\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">@thatdarnchat</a> | <a href=\"https://thatdarnchat.substack.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">thatdarnchat.substack.com</a></p><p>Follow Crystal: <a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/itscrystalbritt\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">@itscrystalbritt</a> | <a href=\"https://itscrystalbritt.substack.com/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">itscrystalbritt.substack.com</a></p><p>Subscribe, rate, and share to help others find the show</p><p>If you or someone you know needs support: <a href=\"https://www.thehotline.org/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">The National Domestic Violence Hotline</a> | 800-799-7233</p>","author_name":"Laura Danger and Crystal Britt"}