{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/664df1ec94d1f4001242cd72/686e88f7ea74e132fb2c0888?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"what happens if they ask how they can help, then don't like my answer?","description":"<p>A listener sent us a video that hit a nerve: a husband asks his overwhelmed wife how he can help, then resists the very thing she asks for. In this episode, we unpack what’s really going on in moments like these. We talk about the emotional weight of asking for help, the nuances of saying no, and what it costs when a partner responds with resistance(even subtly). Emotional labor, the mental load, relationship dynamics, viral couples videos... it's all here!</p><p><br></p><p>Mentioned in this episode:</p><p><a href=\"https://bookshop.org/a/55904/9781501189562\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Rage Becomes Her</a></p><p><a href=\"https://bookshop.org/a/55904/9781541603516\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Wages For Housework</a></p><p><a href=\"https://bookshop.org/a/55904/9780593474785\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">No More Mediocre</a></p><p>Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at <a href=\"https://timetoleanpod.substack.com\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">timetoleanpod.substack.com</a></p><p>Preorder <a href=\"https://www.lauradanger.com/no-more-mediocre\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><em>No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More</em></a></p><p>Follow Laura: <a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/thatdarnchat\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">@thatdarnchat</a> | <a href=\"https://thatdarnchat.substack.com\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">thatdarnchat.substack.com</a></p><p>Follow Crystal: <a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/itscrystalbritt\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">@itscrystalbritt</a> | <a href=\"https://itscrystalbritt.substack.com\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">itscrystalbritt.substack.com</a></p><p>Subscribe, rate, and share to help others find the show</p><p>If you or someone you know needs support: <a href=\"https://www.thehotline.org\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">The National Domestic Violence Hotline</a> | 800-799-7233</p>","author_name":"Laura Danger and Crystal Britt"}