{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/6604e12b53b2df001616fc10/6a8db3da83ae7b3466b0b92d?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"96: \"You’re Making an Elephant Out of a Mosquito\"","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/6604e12b53b2df001616fc10/1787670370043-1ac45a51-32df-4f8b-8b97-9eab7cb15456.jpeg?height=200","description":"<p>In this episode, I sit down with Wednesday to talk about how the nervous system can become attached to predictability—even when that predictability is harmful—and how an abuser can become both the <strong>poison and the antidote, the distress and the comfort.</strong></p><p><br></p><p>Wednesday shares how her ex used martial arts, clumsiness, and “accidents” to explain away physical trespasses—creating just enough \"truth\" to make her question what was actually happening.</p><p>We also unpack:</p><p><br></p><ul><li>Why we sometimes wish our abuser would do something <em>obvious enough</em> to finally give us permission to leave.</li><li>How early lack of commitment can look like the <strong>opposite of control</strong>, making us chase harder and overlook warning signs.</li><li>“Why are you making me out to be the bad guy?” / “You think I’m some kind of monster?” / “Why do you always assume the worst of me?”</li><li>How phrases like <strong>“You’re making an elephant out of a mosquito”</strong> turn legitimate concerns into evidence that <em>we</em> are the problem.</li><li>Why physical abuse is so often accompanied by an explanation: <em>“I didn’t slam the door on you—you didn’t move.” “I didn’t kick you—you walked into my foot.” “I wasn’t pushing you—I was trying to calm you down.”</em></li><li>How an impending exit date can change an abuser’s behavior—less arguing, more emotional withdrawal, and a relationship that suddenly appears “peaceful,” making you question whether leaving is really necessary.</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong><u>Links &amp; Codes:</u></strong></p><p><br></p><p>Aimee Says Code: Use code GRACE at checkout: https://www.aimeesays.com/en/plan/select</p><p><br></p><p><em>\"If He Hit Me I Would Leave\" </em>Poem: https://emmarosebyham.substack.com/p/if-he-hit-me-i-would-leave-him</p><p><br></p><p>Guest's Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/wednesdaysamantha/</p>","author_name":"Grace Stuart"}