{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/65e0d49ee79511001637eed5/6973997935a98abf7c635cf0?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"367. Why Anxious and Avoidant Partners Keep Getting Stuck in the Same Cycle","description":"<p>If you’ve ever been in a romantic relationship where one of you keeps reaching for closeness while the other pulls away just when things feel important, this episode is for you. If part of you feels like you’re always chasing connection, or part of you feels like too much closeness makes you want to escape, you’re not broken. You’re likely in an anxious-avoidant dynamic. Anxious and avoidant partners don’t randomly fall in love. This pairing is common for very specific psychological and nervous system reasons. Today I want to help you understand that pattern so you can stop personalizing what’s happening and start seeing it clearly. This is Part One of a three-part series. Today is about naming the dynamic. The next two episodes will focus on how to love an anxious partner and how to love an avoidant partner without losing yourself.</p><p>____________________________</p><p>Full blog and show notes: <a href=\"https://abbymedcalf.com/anxious-avoidant-relationships\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://abbymedcalf.com/anxious-avoidant-relationships</a></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Download Where Are You in the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle Right Now? It’s a quick self-assessment to help you understand how you’re showing up in your relationship when things get hard: <a href=\"https://abbymedcalf.com/anxious-avoidant-cycle-assessment\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://abbymedcalf.com/anxious-avoidant-cycle-assessment</a></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack:<a href=\"https://abbymedcalf.com/substack\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> https://abbymedcalf.com/substack</a>.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>You'll get...</p><p>✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes</p><p>✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations</p><p>✨ Community chats and live Q&amp;A calls with Abby</p><p>_________</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week!&nbsp;</p><p><a href=\"https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/%C2%A0\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/&nbsp;</a></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Easy and Joy:<a href=\"https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries</a></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass:<a href=\"https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook</a></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing:<a href=\"https://abbymedcalf.com/book%C2%A0\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> https://abbymedcalf.com/book&nbsp;</a></p><p>____________________________</p><p>Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to<a href=\"https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives</a> where you’ll find past episodes.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook:<a href=\"https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> https://abbymedcalf.com/shop</a></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this!<a href=\"https://abbymedcalf.com/shop\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> https://abbymedcalf.com/shop</a></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Say hello on social:</p><p>Substack:<a href=\"https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd</a></p><p>Instagram:<a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving</a></p><p>LinkedIn:<a href=\"https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"> https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving</a></p><p>YouTube: <a href=\"https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube</a></p>","author_name":"Dr. Abby Medcalf"}