You remember this song, right?
2010, 2011, every single party. Telephone baby.
Did you dance to it too?
I did. Didn't think twice about it. Just danced AND SINGED(!) like everyone else.
Then one day I stopped and actually listened to what's being said. And once you hear it, you can't unhear it.
I don't know if Gaga and Byonce planed it. But it doesn't matter if it's intentional. Hear something enough times, it reprograms you either way.
This song is telling women they're above you.
That calling twice is pathetic.
That she's out dancing while you're home waiting by the phone.
Sound familiar?
(Really? are you at home waiting her so she dance alone?????
If you do that. You have a huge problem.
But solvable.)
This is a freame. Most guys have been living in it without knowing it.
I lived every version of this.
Bc I had many relationships and women.
And took me years to catch it, let alone fix it.
Most men think freedom is doing whatever you feel like.
No schedule,
no discipline,
nobody telling you what to do.
That's not freedom, ma man.
That's exactly how you end up the guy checking his phone waiting for her to text back.
Real freedom comes from structure.
From building the kind of man who doesn't need her permission to be a man.
You are a man.
This is the short version.
In the full episode, I go deeper into why this actually messes with your dating life, not just your music playlist.
Curious if you ever caught this nuance. Comment.
Gentlemen,
Axel Lionel
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