{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/65a5932db97db900172e715e/665fe1e546cf460012e85b85?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"Fighting for Friendship: The Challenges, Science, and Art of Making New Connections","description":"<p>In this episode of <em>Table Pancakes</em>, Katherine and Shelbi honor the <strong>not-so-easy process of making new friends</strong> and discuss insights from Danielle Bayard Jackson’s book <em>Fighting for Our Friendships: The Science and Art of Conflict and Connection in Women's Relationships.</em></p><p><br></p><h3><strong>What We Cover:</strong></h3><h4><strong>Define the… Friendship</strong></h4><ul><li>How <strong>childhood experiences</strong> with making friends shape our ability to build connections as adults in <strong>less structured environments</strong></li><li>The <strong>changing workplace landscape</strong> and how increased digital connection impacts new friendships and socialization (<em>referencing Te-Ping Chen’s</em> <em>The Loneliness of the American Worker</em> in <em>The Wall Street Journal</em>)</li><li>Accepting <strong>awkward fumbles</strong> as part of the process and the importance of <strong>creating structure</strong> when making new friends (<em>inspired by J.P. Brammer’s</em> <em>Hola Papi: How to Make Friends As an Adult</em> in <em>The Cut</em>)</li></ul><h4><strong>Fighting for Our Friendships</strong></h4><ul><li>Research shows that it takes <strong>34 hours to make a friend</strong>—a reminder that friendships require <strong>time and intention</strong></li><li>Strong friendships have&nbsp;<strong>health benefits</strong>, with some studies comparing the impact of loneliness to&nbsp;<strong>the dangers of smoking</strong></li><li>The delicate balance of <strong>giving people grace for difficult conversations</strong> while acknowledging the role that <strong>pride, shame, and capacity limitations</strong> play in conflict and resolution</li></ul><h4><strong>The Mechanics of Female Friendship</strong></h4><ul><li>Jackson’s three core principles that bond female friendships are <strong>symmetry, secrecy, and support</strong></li><li>The <strong>fight against ambiguity and misperception</strong> creates open and honest conversations about each friend’s needs</li><li>How <strong>life changes, evolving friendships, and misaligned expectations</strong> can lead to a necessary reckoning—deciding when a friendship is no longer serving you</li></ul><h3><br></h3><h3><strong>Question of the Week:</strong></h3><p>How can you cultivate new friendships in a way that gives them a chance to develop and thrive? And what are you looking for in friendship?</p><p><br></p><h3><strong>Join the Conversation</strong></h3><p>Email us: <strong>tablepancakespod@gmail.com</strong></p><p>Follow us on Instagram: <a href=\"https://instagram.com/tablepancakespod\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">@tablepancakespod</a></p><p>Connect with us: <a href=\"https://instagram.com/shelbihq\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">@shelbihq</a> | <a href=\"https://instagram.com/katherinehfoster\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">@katherinehfoster</a></p><p><br></p><p>If you enjoyed this episode, we’d love it if you <strong>rated, reviewed, and subscribed</strong> to the show. Your support helps us continue these conversations.</p>","author_name":"Katherine Foster and Shelbi Jones"}