You’re successful, independent and capable. You’ve built a life you’re proud of and you’re used to getting things done.
So why can love still feel so difficult?
In this episode of Healing With Teeling, I’m breaking down the final Love-Blocking Archetype in this series: The Overachiever.
The Overachiever is often the woman everyone else thinks has it all together. She’s ambitious, reliable and strong. She knows how to achieve, solve problems and take care of herself.
But underneath that independence can be a subconscious belief that love, approval and worth have to be earned.
And when you bring that belief into relationships, you can find yourself over-giving, over-functioning, trying to control the outcome or working far too hard to make a relationship work.
In this episode, I cover:
• The common signs of the Overachiever Archetype
• Why achievement can become connected to your sense of worth
• Childhood experiences that can create these subconscious patterns
• Why asking for help, resting and receiving can feel uncomfortable
• How being fiercely independent can affect intimacy and vulnerability
• Why you may find yourself attracted to emotionally unavailable relationships
• The difference between healthy independence and keeping people at a distance
• How to stop trying to earn love through what you do for other people
• Three practical ways to start changing the Overachiever pattern
• How to separate who you are from what you achieve
You don’t need to become less ambitious, stop being successful or make yourself smaller to find healthy love.
The work is learning that your achievements are not evidence of your worth.
You are worthy of love when you’re achieving, and you’re worthy of love when you’re doing absolutely nothing.
When you stop trying to prove yourself, you can start choosing yourself. And that changes the relationships you choose too.
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We’ll look at where you are now, what keeps repeating and the support you need to move towards the life and relationship you truly want.
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