Sometimes being the “good girl” can show up in dating in ways we don't even notice.
You make him your focus. You put your own needs aside. You give more than you're receiving. You take over the planning because you're capable. Or you hold back from showing interest because you don't want to seem too eager or risk rejection.
In Episode 194 of Travel & Transformation, I’m talking about 3 “Good Girl” Patterns That Could Be Keeping You Single.
We’ll look at people-pleasing, over-giving, taking on too much of the effort, putting your life on hold, and becoming emotionally invested before you've even decided whether you actually like the person.
I also share a client story about how past trauma shaped her dating patterns and how rewriting the story helped her approach dating differently.
You can begin by asking yourself:
Am I enjoying getting to know this person, or am I already trying to secure the relationship?
Have I given him a chance to show me what effort looks like?
Am I living my life, or keeping myself available just in case?
I also share details about my new four-week Get Soulmate Ready cohort for high-achieving women who are successful in many areas of life but struggling when it comes to love.
You don't have to stop being a caring woman. You may simply need to let the good girl rest.
In This Episode
• How people-pleasing can create unbalanced relationships
• Putting a new partner's needs ahead of your own
• Giving gifts and over-giving too early in dating
• Taking on all the planning and initiative
• Giving someone the opportunity to show you their level of effort
• Putting your own life on hold while waiting for someone to call
• The difference between expressing interest and chasing
• Acting like someone's girlfriend before you've decided whether you actually like him
• How past trauma can influence dating patterns
• Using journaling and reflection to recognize patterns
• Rewriting the story you're carrying into your relationships
• My new four-week Get Soulmate Ready cohort
Best Moments
“You can rewrite the story and live into the future in the new story, being the heroine of that story.”
“You don't have to chase, but you also don't have to sit back and wait to be chosen.”
“You have to give somebody the opportunity to show you what their effort looks like.”
GET SOULMATE READY
I’d love to invite you to join my Get Soulmate Ready four-week cohort.
We’re going to spend four weeks unraveling the things that may be keeping you single and looking at the patterns that can get in the way of the love you’re looking for.
This is for high-achieving women who are doing well in so many areas of life but find that love feels like the one area that isn't working the way they want it to.
You’ll also be surrounded by other women who are navigating some of the same questions and experiences, because sometimes it helps to realize you’re not the only one going through it.
If this sounds interesting to you, send me a DM @createlifeyourway on Instagram or send me an email. I’d love to hear from you and have you in the program.
Connect With Me
Website | www.thereikihealingcoach.com
Instagram | @createlifeyourway
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LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/sophia-elcock-b1941b5/
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