You're on the sofa. Or making dinner. Or lying in bed. And your brain is still at work. It's replaying that conversation from this afternoon, rewriting the email you already sent, rehearsing tomorrow's meeting complete with responses to things nobody has said yet. You know you're doing it. You can feel yourself thinking about work, and knowing that doesn't help you stop.
This isn't a willpower problem. Your brain is doing exactly what it's designed to do: holding onto open loops. Every unresolved conversation, every decision you haven't made, every task you didn't finish, it's all running in the background because your brain doesn't trust the information has been saved anywhere else. And for women in leadership, this runs deeper, because the things keeping you awake aren't just tasks. They're relational. Did that feedback come across the way I intended? Is she upset with me? Was I too direct?
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