{"version":"1.0","type":"rich","provider_name":"Acast","provider_url":"https://acast.com","height":250,"width":700,"html":"<iframe src=\"https://embed.acast.com/$/655148df2861630012a1d01b/69a56ee216315a936f241f7f?\" frameBorder=\"0\" width=\"700\" height=\"250\"></iframe>","title":"Paul Aragones: How to Engineer a Great Marriage","thumbnail_width":200,"thumbnail_height":200,"thumbnail_url":"https://open-images.acast.com/shows/655148df2861630012a1d01b/1772449035716-569a5e85-a303-4f03-a893-1d19f0dd65db.jpeg?height=200","description":"<h2>Links</h2><p><br></p><p>- CodeCrafters (Sponsor): https://tej.as/codecrafters</p><p>- Guest Socials (Paul Aragones):</p><ul><li>Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/prequalizer/</li><li>YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@PinoyHusbands</li></ul><p>- Gottman Institute (The Four Horsemen): https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/</p><p>- Cal.com (Peer Richelsen): https://cal.com</p><p><br></p><h2>Mentioned Episodes</h2><p><br></p><p>- Diazno</p><ul><li>Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4i4txd4HhngCGAtDWt0JZF?si=h-LM6LEPQGeh8Hsu2s5N4w</li><li>Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/diazno-how-to-unlock-creativity-taste-and-effective/id1731855333?i=1000747678547</li><li>YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k8azxbxYBAc&amp;list=PLEJpU2pV0Lie1VWU1unMg_7FRQ1gqFmAZ&amp;index=4&amp;t=5888s&amp;pp=iAQBsAgC</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Summary</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, I sit down with Paul Aragones, an embedded Linux engineer who made the fascinating pivot to becoming a marriage coach. We explore the surprisingly deep parallels between building stable software systems and engineering a divorce-proof marriage. We discuss why marriage is actually the ultimate operating system for life, how to create a 'spec sheet' for your partner to avoid compatibility bugs, and why your friend circle might be increasing your divorce risk by 75%. Paul also opens up about his own journey through poverty and near-divorce, and we debate the controversial role of submission and servant leadership in modern relationships.</p><p><br></p><p>Chapters</p><p><br></p><p>00:00:00 Intro</p><p>00:05:05 Marriage as an Operating System</p><p>00:08:28 Building the Spec Sheet: Requirements for a Spouse</p><p>00:13:38 Why Marry? The Societal &amp; Financial API</p><p>00:18:45 The Danger of Being Too Picky (The \"Feature Creep\" Problem)</p><p>00:22:14 Defining Your 3 Non-Negotiables</p><p>00:27:46 The \"Timeout\" Clause in Dating</p><p>00:33:13 The Shock of v1.0: Early Marriage Bugs</p><p>00:39:20 The 75% Rule: How Friends Influence Divorce Risk</p><p>00:47:23 Implementing CI/CD: Continuous Improvement in Marriage</p><p>00:54:30 Overcoming Male Pride &amp; Finding Mentors</p><p>01:01:15 Identity Stack: Husband &gt; Father &gt; Businessman</p><p>01:06:11 Addressing Religious Trauma &amp; Misconceptions</p><p>01:19:58 The Four Horsemen: Predicting Divorce with 90% Accuracy</p><p>01:27:08 Emergency Protocols: Saving a Dying Marriage</p><p>01:37:41 Why It's All Worth It: The Highest Form of Satisfaction</p>","author_name":"Tejas Kumar"}